Enjoy Enhancing Your Courage through the Law of Attraction

Posted on August 5, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
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Imagine feeling great courage. The Law of Attraction can help you with this. For some of us, the idea of the Law of Attraction is comforting. It can be thinking: “Oh, if I think positively, then positive outcomes are surely on their way to me.”

The law of attraction is the attractive, magnetic power of the Universe that draws similar energies together. It manifests through the power of creation, everywhere and in multiple ways. – Remez Sasson

So the idea that the Universe will get behind you and help you manifest what you truly want can enhance your courage.

On the other hand, other people may feel some fear related to ideas of the Law of Attraction. They might have certain thoughts arise: “Wait a minute! If I’m worried about something, I’ll draw exactly what I fear to me!”

I’ve learned that although fearful thoughts may arise, the answer is to condition yourself to think of empowering thoughts after a fearful thought. I call this The Power of Your Second Thought. 

For example, I help my client Sara deal with certain fearful thoughts. Recently she said, “When I think of ‘oh no, I don’t have enough clients’ — I’ve trained myself to think: ‘What can I do right now? Can I call someone I know? Can I help someone and brighten their day? Can I call someone new? How can I now plant positive seeds for good opportunities?” That’s the Power of Your Second Thought.

I’ve also learned that to manifest what you really want often calls for courage.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. – Nelson Mandela

Here’s where courage comes in. Some people think of a big, positive dream for their lives but then feel fear. “What if it doesn’t work out? What if I lose money? What if I look foolish and my friends and family make fun of me?”

It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends. – J. K. Rowling

The courage part is to keep moving forward in spite of the fear.

To use the Law of Attraction in your favor, do take time and think of what you really want. Then donot just stay in that one mode of thinking. Start getting more information and training—and Take Action!

Now I’m going to share really practical methods. Knowing and using these practical methods will build up your positive thoughts (attracting positive outcomes). Getting in tune with the Law of Action (plus the Law of Creation and Law of Being) is so important that I wrote a whole book on this entitled: Yes! Secrets for Your Best Life – Law of Attraction Plus Hidden Power Increases Your Success and Happiness (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )

We’ll use the C.A.N. process:

C – cover the downside
A – arrange your own approval
N – nurture yourself

1. Cover the downside

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. – Dale Carnegie

Here’s an important part of “getting busy.” Make a plan for how you can do fine even if your planned action creates disappointing outcomes. If I do 20 projects, some of them will not yield the income that I prefer. But I move ahead anyway. How can I do that? Each project has a budget so I can withstand a loss or two because the budget was not too big to “sink the whole company.”

That’s what I mean by “cover the downside”: The downside would be investing money in a project and then the project does not break-even. To cover the downside would be to strategically keep the budget low enough.

In essence, that’s making a thorough plan that includes allowances for missteps. Having a thorough plan can boost your courage.

Successful people know and use ‘the numbers.’ – Tom Marcoux

Another way to boost your courage is to “know the important numbers.” By this I mean: identify what specific steps and items you need to improve.

Measurement is the first step that leads to control and eventually to improvement. If you can’t measure something, you can’t understand it. If you can’t understand it, you can’t control it. If you can’t control it, you can’t improve it. – H. James Harrington

Successful people know how much income must be brought in by sales to breakeven and to go into profit.

They know, on average, how many marketing phone calls lead to gaining a new client.

Here’s where you boost your courage. If you don’t measure things, you will likely have “free floating anxiety” because so many things will be uncertain.

On the other hand, as soon as you write a plan on paper and take some action, you’ll feel stronger. Your courage will expand.

Such good thoughts and good feelings, by the Law of Attraction, will bring you better and better results.

2. Arrange your own approval

Let’s return to this quote: It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends. – J. K. Rowling

I have had friends who could NOT see my vision for projects. They warned me against moving forward on certain projects. If I had listened to them, I would have been stopped in my tracks. Some projects like my book Darkest Secrets of Persuasion and Seduction Masters: How to Protect Yourself and Turn the Power to Good [free chapter when you Click Here] have yielded income every month. So those particular friends were wrong!

What happened then? They merely shrugged and said something like: “Oh, well. Some things turn out okay.”

Okay! They almost led me down the path of doing nothing and helping nobody. That’s serious.

So I invite you to avoid living for anyone else’s approval. Set your own internal and personal standards. In essence, “arrange your own approval.”

3. Nurture yourself

Acting in a courageous manner takes energy and internal reserves. How do you have such reserves? You nurture yourself. I’ve said to clients: Take breaks or be broken. As an Executive Coach, I help my clients develop skills, strength and stamina.

When you nurture yourself, you’re truly building up your resilience. And to manifest your dreams you need a big helping of resilience! When you stretch and grow, you‘ll have some projects and some experiences that really disappoint you. But you can be proud of yourself that you demonstrated courage. You took an appropriate risk. Good for you!

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To really get the Law of Attraction working for you, approach your activities with strategy. Use strategy in how you think (habitually) and how you make plans and take action.

Your courage will expand and the Law of Attraction will assist you in manifesting terrific outcomes.

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Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Yes! Secrets for Your Best Life – Law of Attraction Plus Hidden Power Increases Your Success and Happiness (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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Do You Know the ONE THING that Could Transform Your Life to Big Success?

Posted on August 4, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Tom Marcoux lands jet ski in feature film scene.

Tom Marcoux lands jet ski in feature film scene.

Do you know what will most benefit your personal success? Do you want to get more done? Answers arise when you find your own empowering responses to this question: “Are you ready to succeed?”

Here’s a second, related question:“Everyday are you training, rehearsing and studying so you are ready to jump at opportunity?” (This is the ONE THING that could transform your life to Big Success.)

This means so much to me that I read 81 books a year. I also have a number of mentors.

This ability to be ready has meant a lot to my life.

Several years ago, I was co-producing and directing a feature film. We were able to get a small budget together but not a budget that could afford a particular lead actor.

My co-producer turned to me and asked, “Tom, why don’t you play that role in this feature film?”

My first response was: “I’m already directing. That’s a lot of work.” But soon after, I said, “Yes!” I’m glad that I responded with “Yes.” I have good memories of doing action scenes as a leading character in the feature film. [In the photo connected to this article, I’m doing the stunt with the jet ski. Yes — I did stunts and fight scenes.]

Can You Say “Yes” to the Big Challenges?

How could I say, ‘Yes’ to both starring in and directing a feature film? It’s because I had trained as an actor. I had acted in a number of short films and I had acting mentors.

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Later, I gave a speech to help people out of work learn how to effectively gain jobs. I taught them how to develop their effective personal brand. The San Francisco Examiner designated me as “The Personal Branding Instructor.”

After my speech, a person came up to me to me and said, “You should be a speaker at [xy] company.”

I replied, “Who do I talk with?”

The man told me.

“Do you have your cell phone? How about you leave a voicemail for her?” I asked.

I knew that the man  was likely at the peak of valuing my speech — so I guided him to leave a message in that moment–at the height of his enthusiasm for me to speak for [xy] company.

That one discussion led to work that totaled more than $361,000.

In three sentences, I guided someone to help me get connected to a valuable opportunity.

How did I do that?

I was ready!

Now, I’ll guide you through the Y.E.S. process

Y – yearn for knowledge and experience
E – energize yourself
S – set up rehearsal

1. Yearn for knowledge and experience

Remember my earlier question: “Everyday are you training, rehearsing and studying so you are ready to jump at opportunity?”

To be ready, you must prepare everyday. You never know when an opportunity will present itself.

We simply do not have the time to make a bunch of mistakes. By studying and reading, you can learn from those who have achieved much. You can avoid the mistakes that they have gone through. You’ll save time. You’ll do better than you would have without the knowledge.

Also, get training. Practice. Some years ago, I practiced negotiating by going to a flea market and negotiating over the price of books. I kept track of what I learned over the years and wrote a book, Darkest Secrets of Negotiation Masters (see a free chapter when you CLICK HERE )

Stay on a continuing quest to improve your skills.

2. Energize yourself

Enough sleep, exercise and good nutrition form a solid foundation for your success. Without energy, you cannot confidently and powerfully say YES! to opportunities when they appear. When you want to improve something, measure it. For example, some of my clients log their sleep hours. I emphasize: Don’t guess. Measure for Success.

3. Set up rehearsal

When my clients complete rehearsal sessions, I can tell and I praise them for their good work. When they have not done five days of 9-minute Rehearsals, I can notice that, too. And so can the audience!

As an Executive Coach, I work with clients so they can rehearse for vital speeches, meetings and important one-to-one conversations. I also train clients in effective sales methods. It’s not just about information. It’s really about rehearsal with a coach and creating new neural pathways in one’s brain — so you succeed on whole new levels for success.

For more about how I help clients perform at higher levels and Build Their Brand, see this 1.8 min. video:

Ideally, you complete a 9-minute Rehearsal session in the morning. Why? Then your subconscious mind can work on the material throughout the day.

Use the Y.E.S. process so that you’re READY for surprise opportunities.

Take your life to a higher level—faster.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Be Heard and Be Trusted: How You Can Use Secrets of the Greatest Communicators to Get What You Want (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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Discover How to Put More LIFE into Your Life – The “You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader” Approach

Posted on August 3, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Tom Marcoux holds Mark Sanborn's book

Tom Marcoux holds Mark Sanborn’s book “You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader”

Recently, I learned from author Mark Sanborn as I studied his book You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader.

Mark emphasizes “Everyone has the opportunity to lead, every day.”

He asks these questions:

“Do you shape your life and career?
Do you affect the quality of others’ experiences?
Do you inspire or influence others?
Do you work to achieve specific goals by working with or coordinating the efforts of others?”

We influence others every day. And it begins with us. Mark says, “All leadership begins with self-mastery. You can’t lead others until you can first lead yourself.” (page 28 – of You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader – look inside his book when you CLICK HERE).

Some of us may find the idea of “self-mastery” to be daunting. Still, I’ll always remember what Mark wrote: “Leadership is influence. . . . People remember stories. Stories are the coat pegs of the mind. They are where people hang their ideas. Once they have a memorable story to help them remember, they can recall whatever important moral or point you have to make.”

So I’ll continue on this topic. When you want to “first lead yourself” take a careful look at the stories you tell yourself about yourself.

Mark wrote: “If you want to be a leader in your own life and in the lives others, you’ve got to follow through on your own promises.”

So continuing this idea: let’s make sure that we tell stories about when we made a promise and we came through and actually did what we promised. That’s an important part of leading yourself!

You can put more life in your life when you focus on keeping your promises and telling the stories that truly influence people for the better.

Further along in his book, Mark identifies 3 Cs – Character, Competence and Connection (page 53). Mark wrote: “To harness the power of others, you have to persuade them to follow your lead. . . . To get others to follow you requires character, competence, connection.”

Mark then demonstrates how to improve in all three dimensions.

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I truly agree with Mark’s approach. I have been a leader since I directed my first film at 9 years old.

Over the decades, I have studied with mentors, and currently I lead teams in the United Kingdom, India and the United States of America. I’m known as a CEO who coaches leaders to maximize their influence and impact. From experiences directing feature films, creating and publishing graphic novels and business books and more – I know truthful discussions of what it really takes to lead. And Mark’s book is truthful and helpful.

As I was preparing to write this article I came across so many powerful quotes, I said to one of my team members, “I might as well underline and quote Mark Sanborn’s entire book!”

It is a joy to recommend Mark’s book, You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader, to you.

You may not be leading a company at the moment. Still, you lead yourself, perhaps, a group of friends and in your own family.

I’ve seen a number of times that when I personally demonstrated greater patience, family members followed my lead and calmed down.

So learn from Mark’s stories and methods in his book, and be the leader who makes a positive difference each day.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Be Heard and Be Trusted: How You Can Use Secrets of the Greatest Communicators to Get What You Want (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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How You Can Get Strong, Overcome Pain and Make Your Life Better!

Posted on August 2, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Do you know there is an inner peace way to win?

Do you know there is an inner peace way to win?

Ever hit a wall of grief and pain? The road of healing includes guiding your thoughts to positive possibilities — even while giving yourself space to do some grieving. I’ll share three questions that help you step forward in life.

When we really face it, we have two things: this present moment and the next moment. But many of us get stuck in either guilt/regrets of the past or worries of the future.

What brings us to this present moment? A question.

Some questions empower us. And others tear us down like: “Why does this always happen to me?” or “When will I stop being [clumsy, stupid . . . any other self-degrading remark]?”

Instead, an empowering question will turn the direction of your thoughts to what you can use to improve this moment and the next moment.

Here are 3 Power Questions my clients use:

* What did I learn?
* What did Higher Power want me to get from this?
* How can I move forward and carry the lesson for the better?

For those people who have a spiritual path, the second question gets them out of their own ego.

I have learned, as I was grieving the death of a close friend, that I could learn a number of lessons.

For example, after a close friend committed suicide, I supported another friend “Sam” by asking, “Do you need a suicide watch?” [A suicide watch is when friends take shifts so someone will be with a depressed person 24/7.] That took courage because I risked Sam’s anger.

However, Sam said, “Thank you for being concerned. I am okay.”

I invite you to use these three questions. Discover what next positive thing can be part of your life journey.

Here’s another important detail. I have learned to be grateful for what I have–and what I enjoyed in the past.

As I step into a new day and I find that some things change, I’ll say, “I’m in a new chapter of my life. I’m grateful for what happened in the previous chapter. And I’m fully present for this new chapter.”

As an Executive Coach, I help my client develop skills, strength and stamina. During the process, the client will take new action and take new appropriate risks. And there are times when life throws in some hardship.

So if you’re experiencing some hardship (perhaps, losing a friend or a job or a possession like a totaled car), see if you can grieve AND employ the 3 Power Questions:

* What did I learn?
* What did Higher Power want me to get from this?
* How can I move forward and carry the lesson for the better?

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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Do You Know the Secret Behind Great Success?

Posted on August 1, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Attract Real Success; Follow up well with people!

Attract Real Success; Follow up well with people!

Some years ago, I had business cards from nine people after first meeting them at a Chamber of Commerce event.

I knew I should follow up with them. But then I hesitated. I had some dis-empowering feelings like: “Oh, they’ll think I’m bothering them” and “They’ll think I’m trying to sell them something.”

Did I follow up? No. In fact, their business cards got lost in a file somewhere.

Can you relate to that experience?

Years later, I’ve learned how to be more skillful about new contacts and follow-up. As an Executive Coach, I’m often asked by my clients to train them in powerful networking methods. This led to my including my methods in my book Now You See Me – Make a Great First Impression – Use Secrets of Power Networking: for More Clients, More Referrals and More Friends (see a Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE.)

Want to truly expand your success? Learn to transform how you follow up with people. Many people simply fail to follow up because of two incomplete perceptions that follow up is “drudgery” and “bothering someone again.” Stop! You can make follow up into something that the other person welcomes!—and that you’re comfortable doing. You’ll actually feel good as you do the follow up activities.

First you need to transform “follow up” into what I call “Follow-Good.” The other person feels good while you contact them, and you feel good about the process. You stop dreading your follow-up actions. We’ll use the G.O.O.D. process:

G – get ready ahead of time
O – organize a system
O – open dialogue
D – do follow up in 2 minute segments

1. Get ready ahead of time

The essence of “Follow-Good” is to transform yourself from an intruder into a “host” and an “invited guest.”

To do this, you need to get ready ahead of time.

For example, when I attend an in-person networking event, I bring 3×5 cards. Why? So I can take notes at an appropriate time. For example, if you’re talking with someone from an Asian culture do NOT write on their business card. I hold my 3×5 card next to their card and I write notes on the 3×5 card and then place the person’s card into my folded 3×5 card. Then the cards together go into my pre-selected pocket.

The above process is to for you to identify what the person is interested in. This will give you clues as what you can give to the person that will brighten his or her life. Let’s say that Sarah’s daughter is taking karate classes, you can send a copy of an article that shows how girls can excel in martial art classes.

Bob Burg, author of Endless Referrals emphasizes the value of sending people a hand-written follow-up card. Here’s how you can get ready ahead of time.

In advance, set up your thank you cards. Have them ready to go in a #10 envelope that has your handwritten return address, and hand-applied postage stamp.

Then, the same night of a networking event, fill out the card (which has your photo and contact information) and place the completed cards in a mailbox. [Sure, you could send an email message, but everybody does that. And no one stands out.]

2. Organize a system

To do follow up effectively and with little pain, it’s good to use a system. As you develop this system, think of ways for you to streamline the system into easy steps. You need to feel good as YOU do the follow-up work. Hence my phrase: “Follow-Good.” You’re actually doing a good work. You’re providing a benefit for the other person.

Here’s an example of a system:

1) Meet the person at a networking event.
2) Send an email the same night of the first encounter OR
send a follow-up, handwritten card (in a #10 envelope).
3) Place in your calendar system a prompt to remind you to find a suitable article that might be useful to the person.
4) Print out that article and send it.

Each person will find how to customize his or her own system. Bob Burg suggests that one send a notepad with one’s photo and contact information on each page. Bob feels that such a notepad keeps you in front of the prospective client’s eyes.

3. Open dialogue

Consider your follow up activities as continuing a positive dialogue with the new person. And certainly, connect with the person simply to say, “How are things going?” This works well in social media. Often, I’ll see that someone is online and available for a chat at Facebook. So I simply type, “Andrea, how are things going?” And then I “listen” as they often vent about something. With me, they have an empathetic ear. The person sees that I’m demonstrating care and concern.

4. Do follow up in 2 minute segments

What gets done? Something that is easy and fast to do. You can follow up with a person in a short amount of time. For example, in 1988 a New York Times article revealed how movie executive Jeffrey Katzenberg made up to 600 phone calls a week. He was called “the master of the 2 minute phone call.” Katzenberg had two secretaries who split the Katzenberg day between them. They placed the calls and had people hold  on so that Katzenberg could go from one conversation to the next.

Katzenberg’s example is extreme. But we can take some inspiration that it’s valuable to stay in contact with people. As an Executive Coach, I’m often encouraging my client to use a better system to stay in contact with vital people for the client’s business success.

Here’s another example. Consider having an open file carton next to your desk. When you think of a follow-up idea, jot it down and toss it into the open file for a particular person. Or jot the idea down in a reminder that you place into the online calendar system.

The really powerful Follow-Good practice is to jot a handwritten note down in 2 minutes. Later, in the day, take two minutes and get that note into the mail.

Praise people. Celebrate their special day. For example, a while ago, I called a friend and said, “Happy today. We can celebrate that one year ago today, you finished writing your first book!”

People appreciate that you notice their special days.

Learn to Follow-up well and network your way to real success; Book: "Now You See Me" available at Amazon.com

Learn to Follow-up well and network your way to real success; Book: “Now You See Me” available at Amazon.com

Use these “Follow-Good” methods:

G – get ready ahead of time
O – organize a system
O – open dialogue
D – do follow up in 2 minute segments

Consider asking people in your networking circle these important questions:

  • How can I recognize a good client for you?
  • How can I be supportive of what you’re doing?

When they tell you, you can get some time to consider how you might help. (I call such time “thinkspace.”) Reply with something like: “I hear you. It would be great for me to promote your book from my Facebook wall. I need to double-check a couple of things. How about I get back to you on Thursday afternoon?”

One of my clients faced such a situation. When she got back to the person, she said, “I’ve found a way to be helpful. I can send out a tweet about your new book. I’m comfortable with that.”

Remember, we can develop a Circle of Success.

We can actually feel good about how we help other people. We become the “host” of good things that we do—including connecting people in our network.

When you call, you’ll be treated like an invited guest.

This is all based on what I call “The 3 Magic Words of Networking: ‘Help Them First.’”

Good journey.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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Discover How to Awaken Your Power – The “Tantra for the West” Approach

Posted on July 30, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Marc Allen and Tom Marcoux - Tom holds Marc's book "Tantra for the West"

Marc Allen and Tom Marcoux – Tom holds Marc’s book “Tantra for the West”

Recently, I learned from author Marc Allen as he gave a speech on his book Tantra for the West: A Direct Path to Living the Life of Your Dreams.

Marc emphasized that “although tantra is usually thought of as sex with some kind of mysticism thrown in, the original meaning of tantra comes from the ancient Sanskrit root word meaning ‘to weave.’ Tantra applies to every moment of your life, excluding nothing. Within your way of life, within your everyday thoughts and feelings, are the keys to love, freedom, and fulfillment.”

Marc devoted  a number of years to living and studying at a center of tantric Buddhism run by a respected Tibetan lama. Over the subsequent years, Marc found a way to express the profound ideas and practices to Westerners.

During his speech, Marc told a powerful story of how he turned around his life and finances by creating a powerful affirmation. When he was struggling and in serious debt, he berated himself. Then, as a whole new direction, he focused on what he truly wanted and used this affirmation:

I am sensible and in control of my finances.
I am creating total financial success,
in an easy and relaxed manner,
a healthy and positive way,
in its own perfect time,
for the highest good of all.

(from page 122 of his book. Look inside Marc’s book when you CLICK HERE)

Marc went from being a struggling publisher to the publisher of The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (estimated 3 million copies sold in North America).

In his book, Marc reveals: “The path of tantra is the path of leaping into the fire of our feelings. It is path of tremendous power and true freedom. It means acknowledging our feelings at every moment.”

I’m so glad that I have a copy of Marc’s book. I love learning from a great teacher.

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I truly agree with Marc’s approach. In his book he emphasizes that when we work with our feelings in the moment and in healthy ways we free ourselves from anger and the health consequences of retained anger.

I also appreciate Marc’s affirmation: “I am sensible and in control of my finances…”

Marc’s affirmation is more than an expression of wishful thinking; it is a road map.

In reflecting on Marc’s affirmation, I came up with a quick overview of how each part of the affirmation can be used as a guide:

  • I am sensible and in control of my finances. [I set up a household budget and budget for each project.]
  • I am creating total financial success [I identify how I can build a business that reaches and serves more and more people.]
  • in an easy and relaxed manner, [I make sure to take breaks so I am refreshed and pleasant to the people I talk with.]
  • a healthy and positive way, [I exercise daily. I make sure to see something funny on video so I enjoy laughter daily.]
  • in its own perfect time, [I acknowledge that my ego may want it to happen immediately, but my soul can acknowledge that things are happening with great timing.]
  • for the highest good of all. [I conduct my business as a service for all of us to benefit.]

 May you explore ways to be kind to yourself and open yourself to express your creativity.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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Love Yourself to Financial Abundance

Posted on July 29, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — 2 Comments
Love yourself to abundance -- a cat knows.

Love yourself to abundance — a cat knows.

I recently saw four of my friends have money troubles and I had a surprising thought: “If they loved themselves more, they would have been in better shape.” Then, my thoughts crystallized when I saw my cat walk into the room where I was typing on a desktop computer.

I realized that my cat naturally does three things–and these can apply toward increasing one’s financial abundance.

1. Be yourself

My cat, Magic, simply expresses himself as a cat. He doesn’t try to bark or chase cars.

Now, how does this apply to increasing our financial abundance? I’ll give you an example. Some years ago, I sat in a room of 23 attorneys who did not want to be attorneys. They had the law degree but then discovered that they did not find the day-to-day work appealing. These were not happy, successful attorneys!

My point is that we are less likely to excel at what we do not like. And often what we do not like relates to where our skills and native ability is lacking.

Instead, focus on your areas of great interest.

Secondly, don’t compete–be yourself and create. To create more financial abundance it’s often better to create your own category instead of trying to jump into a category that already has intense, existing competition.

For example, there is no one just like Whoopi Goldberg. She’s an African American woman named after a cushion and a Jewish person. How’s that?

We’re here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark. – Whoopi Goldberg

2. Be where you can get what you want

I frequently encounter my cat in the kitchen. Why? That’s where the food is. It’s simple. He wants a treat and he’s next to the refrigerator.

Now, it’s your turn:

What do you want? And where is it?

For example, let’s say you want to raise money for making a feature film. Where are the film investors? Some years ago, I attended a meeting in Palo Alto, California. In the meeting were film investors. If a filmmaker wanted to have a chance to get funded by these particular investors, they needed to be in that room at that time.

For some forms of business, you need to go where the fans are. At one point, there was a TV show entitled Heroes of Cosplay, which featured people who travel to many comic book conventions. That’s where the fans are.

3. Ask for what you want

I’ve just scratched under my cat’s chin for the seventh time in a row. I’m not a cat owner; I am cat staff.

Magic speaks up and asks for what he wants: Attention and specifically to be scratched under his chin. When I scratch him behind the ears, he actually lifts his chin for me to scratch exactly where he wants.

How does this apply to increasing your financial abundance? In the following ways:

You need to . . .

  • ask for the sale
  • ask for someone to take a moment and listen to you
  • ask for help
  • ask for support
  • ask for new ideas
  • ask for referrals for your business

A Special Note about Love Yourself to Financial Abundance:

I’m emphasizing “love yourself” because, for many of us, to increase our income we’re going to need to do new things and sometimes put in extreme efforts. We need to take great care of ourselves because we need extra energy to do extraordinary things.

When you love a child, you make sure the little brushes his or her teeth. The child will likely give you resistance but you’ll brave it because the child’s well-being is of primary importance. When you love yourself, you’ll do the tough things to make sure that you become the person you want to be, who attracts success and financial abundance. [This is so important to me that I wrote a whole book on the topic: Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace – Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE ]

Book:

Book: “Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy” available at Amazon.com

For example, I started off as a shy 9-year-old boy terrified while playing the piano for seniors in a retirement home. So I gained the coaching and training–and did hours of rehearsal–to become a professional speaker and leader of companies. Why? Because I wanted to get big things done. I loved myself enough to invest in my training. I was also realistic in understanding that a lot of rehearsal would help develop new skills and new patterns of speaking and performing.

As an Executive Coach, I assure my clients about the power of having someone support you as you stretch and grow. This is a fact I know. I had 3 excellent high school instructors:

* One taught psychology — I earned a degree in psychology.
* One taught English literature– I wrote 27 books and screenplays — and directed feature films.
* One taught theology — I wrote a college online course in Comparative Religion that I have been teaching for over 13 years.

Some time ago, I posted a question to my 5,795 Facebook contacts–and I submit it to you now:

What positive thing would you do if you loved yourself enough or loved yourself more?

Write down your answer.

Make a plan.

And take action to expand your financial abundance.

In essence, love yourself to financial abundance.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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The TRUTH On How You Can Keep Going While Others Quit

Posted on July 28, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Celebrate how you can make this year something you feel Great about!

Celebrate how you can make this year something you feel Great about!

The tension at the table in the restaurant felt like a smothering blanket. My former business associate looked at me with barely contained anger. Things had not gone well. We had learned the hard way that we were not a match for working on a project together. The resulting impasse had cost months of paperwork.

I reached over for a napkin and my suit sleeve caught on my water glass. Then it was like time stopped for a moment. My water glass balanced on its edge, then SPLASH—water spilled all over the table.

Amazing! That was just the thing to dispel the tension. And the matter between us was ultimately resolved. It began with a suit sleeve and a glass of water.

When you’re working on projects that are long term and mean so much to you, you’re likely to meet with resistance. The Big Goals often include big obstacles and we need strategies to help us carry on.

A certain few people will make this year a great year for themselves. Many others will quit. But not you—when you apply the following strategies embodied in the N.E.W. process:

N – nurture Levels of Goals
E – energize through new ideas/skills
W – work the Worst First cure to procrastination

1. Nurture Levels of Goals

Whether you keep going or quit depends on your skills to use your emotion to energize your continued progress.

By this I mean, your emotion, properly channeled, can help you endure and ultimately fulfill your Big Goal.

A lot of people quit when their positive feeling (like “Oh! I look forward to being 40 pounds lighter”) fizzles out.

To really be sure to keep going, it helps to have multiple Levels of Goals.

I’m talking about not just relying on “positive motivation.” Instead, use whatever works!

The solution is to use 3 Emotional Focus-Points:

3 Emotional Focus-Points:

  • Golden Pull Goals
  • Dark Boot Goals
  • Green Tranquility Goals

Let’s tackle the Golden Pull Goal (positive goal) of getting more sales. Sure, that’s a positive thing. You might even make a plan to give yourself a personal reward when you accomplish more sales.

However, many of us realize that what really pushes us forward is a Dark Boot Goal. It’s like a boot that kicks us in the rear end. In this situation, a Dark Boot Goal would be “avoid having to tell my wife that our vacation is cancelled because I failed to sell enough widgets.” You work hard to make sure what you fear does NOT happen.

Along this line, here’s another powerful Dark Boot Goal: “avoid tax penalties by turning in my tax return on time!”

Finally, after achieving many goals, I realized that I need goals that would sustain my well-being. I call these goals Green Tranquility Goals. I recall hearing about a building that was built to be “green” and “self-sustaining.”

We, human beings, need to be self-sustaining, too. For example, I take a walk with my sweetheart every day, and that is one of my Green Tranquility Goals. It helps me feel calm and peaceful.

So when you set a goal, be sure to set up a related Golden Pull Goal, Dark Boot Goal and Green Tranquility Goal.

2. Energize through new ideas/skills

You cannot solve a problem on the same level in which it was created. – Albert Einstein

When I was in my 20’s I needed to raise funds to produce a feature film. I had no idea how to do it. And for months I really suffered because I had a dream but also had big fears and no new skills. So what did I do? I gained a number of mentors and also began reading a lot. Now, I tend to read 81 books a year.

My focus is on getting new ideas and new skills each year because I do not know what new opportunities may arise.

More than that, as an Executive Coach, I’m constantly studying new trends and methods so my clients can Move Forward Fast.

With my clients and graduate students, I emphasize this idea: “You need preparation so that you’re strong to face the unknowns.”

To really make sure you have the time management skills and ways to overcome procrastination, please consider my book: Nothing Can Stop You This Year!: How to Unleash Your Hidden Power to Persuade Well, Get More Done, Gain Sudden Profits, Command Intuition and Feel Great! (See a Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE).

3. Work the “Worst First cure” to procrastination

For many of us, procrastination is a habit. It’s almost like a default setting. We feel that something may be unpleasant to do so we go on “automatic” and put it off.

Here’s a better habit—an empowering habit: “Worst First.” By this I mean do the Worst Task first. Here’s an important observation: The task you dread the most is the most important one for your career.

If you’re dreading updating your resume, it’s probably the most important thing for you to do. [Learn more in Power Time Management: More Time, Less Stress, and Zero Procrastination (Your Breakthrough for More Success, Happiness and Time Off) [See a Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE]

As an Executive Coach, I see that some of my clients dread marketing and, of course, many of them would do the best thing for their business by getting help to do better marketing. This blog is YourBodySoulandProsperity.com — and I know that we can eliminate blocks to the flow of more prosperity in our life. Now, see my 1.7 minute video that pulls back the curtain so you see how directing a feature film that went to the Cannes Film market and training Stanford University MBA students all add up for how I help people rise to higher levels of Real Success:


Personally, I dread doing paperwork. How do I handle it? I work on it first thing in the morning. 30 minutes a day adds up when you do the Worst First task consistently.

Observe yourself. When do you have energy? When you wake up? Or later in the day? Or are you a night owl?

One of my clients writes from 5 pm – 6 pm because he has a “second wind” at that time.

Use your best energy to apply to your Worst First task.

One college professor cleared his apartment of clutter by using the first 15 minutes of each day to clear clutter and straighten up. Soon his living quarters were in great shape.

Now it’s your turn.

What do you want to improve for this year?

Identify your Worst First task and get going.

Make this year an outstanding year for yourself. Apply the N.E.W. process:

N – nurture Levels of Goals
E – energize through new ideas/skills
W – work the “Worst First cure” to procrastination

You deserve to live the life of your dreams.

It begins today.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Love Yourself to Financial Abundance and Spiritual Joy: How You Can Remove Blocks to Your Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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How You Can LOVE Your Life

Posted on July 26, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
You can LOVE your life--and learn from successful people.


You can LOVE your life–and learn from successful people.

Are you barely hanging on? Do you wonder where your zest for living went? We’ll use the F.R.E.E. process:

F – fuel
R – release
E – excitement
E – engagement

1. Fuel

When you want to feel free and enjoy your life, you’ll make sure that you have enough “fuel.” Without appropriate nutrition and sleep, you’re running on near empty. It just doesn’t work. How do you get enough sleep? I’ll share what I do: I keep a log. When I see that I have missed some sleep, I take steps to get more sleep on the next day.

Be sure you have enough fuel so that you feel good and strong. Exercise forms part of your “fueling system.” Regular exercise actually adds to your personal energy.

I find that reading is fuel to me. I stay excited about ideas and ways to help my clients, graduate students, and readers of my own books.

2. Release

Life can be tough. Things happen and we feel burdened by painful feelings. You simply need time to release the painful feelings and experience the good side of life.

Another way to say this is: “Plan your release.” What is a release? It’s something that you do to expel painful energy.

Exercise helps many of us release the stress we feel.

I purposely get laughter-time daily. I watch stand-up comedy moments on YouTube or view comedy-related shows on my digital recorder or DVDs/Blu-ray discs. Everyday.

Many of us find that quiet time or moments for spiritual connection (prayer; meditation) to be helpful.

3. Excitement

Are you just going through the motions? Are you dragging through life? It’s important to notice your daily mood and approach to life. And then do something to put more life into your life.

Unfortunately, a number of people allow themselves to fall into and remain in a rut. I’ve asked a number of people, “What are you looking forward to?” Two people routinely had nothing to say. One of them even resented that I asked the question. That guy is no longer part of my life (his choice)–and what a relief! What a miserable person!

But this is NOT for you.

Doing the same thing day in and day out can create the feeling of “blah.”

On the other hand, you have the choice to make something enjoyable and exciting take place.

Here’s a principle that I use: Make it a game that you can win.

Many people allow themselves to fall into a frustrating pattern of trying to control the actions of others. They complain about their disappointments; and they’re engaged in a game that theycannot win.

But we can control our own efforts. For example, earlier this year, on one particular day, I decided: “Today is the day I finish my new book.” And in that same day, I had my book up on Amazon.com as a Kindle book.

It was exciting for me to watch with anticipation for the time the book went “live” on Amazon.com.

Along this line, here are other principles for bringing some excitement to your life:

* Push on through so you can succeed somewhere. (Even a small success can give you the energy boost to keep going.)

* Aim for more than one thing.

* Have something new coming up.

* Enjoy today AND have something you look forward to.

Happiness is pretty simple: someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to.” – Rita Mae Brown

4. Engagement

I always remember a book I read as I completed my degree in psychology. The author Irvin Yalom proposed that the solution to the problems of life is one thing: Engagement. What does that mean? Get connected! Get involved!

Over several years, I have faced some tough times. (The suicide of a close friend is one of them.)

One powerful way I stay engaged is I make sure to make a contribution to the well being of other people. For example, when I talk about my work coaching graduate students and clients, I say, “I’m grateful for meaningful work.”

Perhaps, at the moment, you’re not pressing to find a job that’s more inline with your deepest heart. Then, consider setting up a situation so that you can say something like: “I’m grateful for my meaningful volunteer work on Saturdays.”

Or “I’m grateful for my meaningful hobby.”

So I’ve learned that a powerful part of engagement is having something to feel grateful about and to have some way to contribute to the well being of another person.

In writing 27 books, I have stayed engaged with serving the well being of my readers. I write everyday, so regardless of how the day goes, I know that I have had a personal victory in writing–even just a paragraph. I’m excited about my book Secrets of Awesome Dinner Guests: What Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter Can Teach You About Success and Fulfillment — see a Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE.

Now, I invite you to put into your daily life something that keeps you engaged and feeling good.

As an Executive Coach, I work with my client over a series of months. The client takes his or her life to new levels of success and fulfillment. This takes stamina, and it helps to put something into your life that keeps you engaged and feeling good.

Answer this question: “What’s the ONE Thing you can do this week such that by doing it everything else would be easier or unnecessary?” (a question coined by Gary Keller)

I’ll add, “What ONE Thing can you do this week that will help you LOVE your life?”

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Create Your Best Life: Unleash Your Charisma and Confidence to Change the World (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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How You Can “Source By Divine Love”

Posted on July 25, 2015 by Tom Marcoux — Leave a comment
Pause and notice each divine moment as it arrives.

Pause and notice each divine moment as it arrives.

Want a source to feel better and more hopeful? We’ll use the S.E.E. process.

S – source daily by Divine Love
E – erase the ego
E – engage

1. Source daily by Divine Love
To source is to get something from a particular place. What place? I suggest a place outside of depending on others to hold you up.

Where do you get your energy from? If you only feel good when you accomplish something or when someone approves of you, you may find yourself in an “energy crisis.”

Instead, consider doing something each day to connect with your Divine Source. For over a 13 years, I teach Comparative Religion on the college level (and I wrote the online course). And I’ve observed that a number of spiritual paths suggest that a person pray or meditate to connect with a Divine Source.

My clients report that they

* meditate for 10 minutes in the morning
* go for a walk at a park at lunchtime
* pray
* practice deep breathing

To “source daily by divine love” is to make a bit of time and space to turn your perspective to an expansive level. What is the alternative? Many of us find it easy to settle for the perspective of “clod of ailments” as George Bernard Shaw mentioned in this quote:

This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. – George Bernard Shaw

To “source by divine love” is to hold that there IS divine love. If your heart resonates with that idea, you may find great comfort that the goodness of the universe supports you. Also, you would likely feel renewed after a session of meditating, praying and/or walking in a park.

2. Erase the ego
A number of authors would suggest that we cannot “erase the ego–that part of us that feels small and vulnerable.” Some people recognize that the ego is made of fear.

Consider that you can erase the tyranny of the ego in the moment. How? Choose your next thought. The first thought may automatically arise from your ego. But you can pre-condition yourself to think an empowering thought as the next thought.

For example, I know someone who has buckets full of compassion for pets and a teaspoon full of compassion for people. My first train of thought is: “This is wrong. People are important. I’d like to see compassion shown for me and my troubles.”

My second train of thought that I have pre-chosen is: “It is as it is. This person is different. I do not run this show.”

Do you see how my second train of thought can calm me down and release me from the strain of my first thoughts’ judgmental properties?

By pre-planning my second train of thought, I am free to go on and enjoy the rest of my day.

3. Engage
I’m writing a musical in which one character drops people when they become inconvenient to her. By this pattern, she cannot know real love because love involves supporting others even when you’re in discomfort. Love is not where you go to get; it’s where you go to give.

To experience the blessing of love, you need to engage in loving actions.

I have thought a lot about compassion which is part of love.

If you want other people to be happy,
practice compassion.
If you want to be happy,
practice compassion.” – The Dalai Lama

And I realized that a number of people fail to practice compassion because it hurts.

It is taking on another person’s hurt to some extent.

When I hear of some tragedy that a person is suffering, I sometimes reply, “I grieve with you.” Pain often results from loss. So I’m acknowledging the person’s loss.

I pause and pay attention. I allow myself to feel empathy.

I know some people who are too quick to offer some facile solution with thoughtless comments like: “You’re young. You’ll find another husband.” The person offering this comment has failed to engage–they have failed to be truly present for the other person.

I invite you to engage in the moment. Be present with people. Allow yourself to feel empathy. You’ll experience a new level of connection.

In summary, remember to SEE:

* Source daily by divine love
* Erase the ego
* Engage

As an Executive Coach, I work in a truly intuitive way. I’ll ask questions in the moment that will bring up something that may surprise a client. Still, he or she will then reply with something that surprises the person. Our truth just awaits our inquiry.

Here is the truth: Your value is beyond any accomplishment or others’ approval.

Your value is recognized by your Divine Source.

Connect with your Divine Source and feel a level of peace and happiness beyond the petty human conundrums of daily life.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux,
CEO
Speaker-author of 27 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist
Author of Create Your Best Life: Unleash Your Charisma and Confidence to Change the World (Free Chapter when you CLICK HERE )
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