Use the Secret and the Truth to Clear Your Path to Real Success and Happiness

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“Does anybody come out and tell the truth about success and happiness?” my friend, Marina, asked.

I’ve reflected on this in the course of writing 45 books (Look inside the books when you CLICK HERE).

First, if someone (some movie or song) says that you only need one thing to be happy, the person is trying to sell your something—or they’re delusional.

On the other hand, we’ll use the H.A.P.P.Y. process:

H – have something significant to do
A – adapt to uncertainty
P – protect your strength
P – perform what nurtures your being
Y – yield to natural laws

  1. Have something significant to do

 “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. … I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake.” – George Bernard Shaw

George Bernard Shaw died at age 94. Looks like he was onto some truth. He had things to do—things he really wanted to make happen.

“The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.” – Albert Schweitzer

“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

Each day we have opportunities to do something significant. Each time I walk into a university and see a custodian cleaning a floor or gathering the trash, I say, “Thank you for your work.” I’m grateful that I can teach MBA students in such a clean and wholesome environment. Someone made that happen, and I thank them for their work.

I might be the only one who says anything to them.

You can be the one person who brightens a person’s day.

“To stand out, find out what you stand for.” – Tom Marcoux

 

  1. Adapt to uncertainty

“There is no way to happiness; happiness is the way.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Ever feel like you’re on a boat that is only held together by a few strands of rope? Do you long for a time when you’ll be free of uncertainty, worries and difficulties?

My friend, don’t hold your breath. The path you are on—the path of uncertainty—is the path of happiness!

Successful people I’ve interviewed have become skillful about making progress in the face of uncertainty.

Often, I share with clients:

When you’re in action, you’re focused, and fear is a quiet voice in the background.

Don’t try to duck uncertainty. Instead, make well-considered decisions and take appropriate risks.

“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product of a well-lived life.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

  1. Protect your strength

“You can help a thousand, but you can’t carry three on your back.” – Jim Rohn

We must protect our own personal strength and health. With my clients, I suggest they ask themselves: “Does this strengthen me?”

“Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear.” – Meg Cabot

“Courage is easier when you’re prepared.” – Tom Marcoux

When you protect your personal strength, you have the energy and clear thinking to do the courageous actions that make your life better. My phrase is: What you dread, gets you ahead.

 

  1. Perform what nurtures your being

“Do you duty,” my father said, years ago. I replied, “I do my duty, and it’s not making me happy.” My point was that I had to do more than just “my duty”—I needed to take care myself like I would a great friend.

If your friend was visiting, you’d make sure they had great food and a comfortable place to sleep. That’s doing the right thing. Do the right things for yourself, too. Keep yourself strong and healthy.

With my clients, I emphasize what I call Green Goals which can include actions like: enjoying daily quiet time, meditation, exercise, tai chi, yoga, taking a daily walk outside, renewing times with friends and family.

Consider seeing a funny video or something else to enjoy humor and laughter each day. Additionally, I play the piano briefly each day.

  1. Yield to Natural Laws

Natural laws? Here’s one. Sleep well and you’ll think more clearly.

Here are other natural laws:

  • If you’re miserable, you create misery in others.
  • Take care of yourself because no one else can do this properly.
  • Make decisions based on your heart and NOT on others’ approval.
  • Your body needs to move. It was designed to move. Be sure to exercise.

“Why are these natural laws?” my friend, Marina, asked.

“Because they are connected to natural consequences. You do certain things and you get certain results. You fail to do daily self-nurturing actions, and you’ll get hurt,” I replied.

I’ll share two more ideas related to natural laws.

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey

“Forgiveness is releasing yourself from a cycle of blame and suffering.” – Dr. Fred Luskin

Holding a grudge often hurts the health of the grudge-holder. The topic of forgiveness is way too big for this article. I mention it here as a reminder to all of us to seek ways to elevate our consciousness, so we can live with freedom and strength.

In summary, remember:

H – have something significant to do
A – adapt to uncertainty
P – protect your strength
P – perform what nurtures your being
Y – yield to natural laws

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 45 books so far 🙂
CEO

P.S. Watch for my online course The Introvert’s Formula to Get Clients — Next Session begins June 11, 2018. Send an email to tomsupercoach[at]gmail.com to be eligible for a discount.

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How You Can Be Fearless and Create Real Success

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“Can somebody really be fearless?’” my client, Stephanie, asked.

“I’ve helped so many people escape the prison of fear — including my clients, MBA students and the actors I’ve directed in feature films. It’s really about developing a healthy relationship with fear,” I replied.

Top actor Kenneth Branagh said, “I used to call it fear [stage fright], but now I call it excitement because it is more useful.”

Over the years, I’ve worked as a stuntman, clinging to the hood of a cherry-red classic Chevy Truck racing at 60 miles an hour—only holding on by my fingertips. As an introvert, I’ve stepped in front of an audience of 703 people as I gave a speech at the National Broadcasters Association Conference in Las Vegas.

I’ve learned to stop fear from running the show.

Here’s an Excerpt from my book: Shape the Future, Lead Like a Pro: 3 Skills Every Great Leader Needs to Succeed [click here to look inside the book].

When you’re in action, you’re focused, and fear is a quiet voice in the background.

While I do meditate (briefly) each day, I note that my clients and I just need to get fear to quiet down—and we can move forward effectively.

(Sure, a monk, with meditating six hours a day, may eliminate most fear. Still, I’m interested in working with you in the here and now!)

Unchecked, fear can paralyze people. Fear can suck the air out of the room.

Instead, we focus on generating empowering energy.

This relates to one of my favorite quotes:

“Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something is more important than fear.” – Meg Cabot.

My own wife elaborated on this idea. She said, “Tom, if you were in trouble, and I was scared to go over there—I’d still go over there because you’re more important.”

I immediately gave her a kiss and hug.

How Can You Manifest Your Courage?

Focus on what is meaningful to you—something that is more important to you than fear.

Now it’s your turn. Write down your answers to these questions: “What’s most important to me? What means more to me than something that scares me?

Let’s Look at the Connection Between Meaning and Happiness

Think about it. Where can you derive empowering energy? It comes from what you find meaningful. (If you do something meaningful, you have a source of happiness and good feelings.)

** End of Excerpt **.

Here’s how you live in a “Be Fearless” way:

1) Quiet down fear.

Through rehearsal and coaching, you condition your mind and body to perform in effective ways. Your mind gets to the point of “I’ve got this” and “I know what to do.”

For example, as an introvert, I used to feel fear and nervousness in  meeting new people at a conference. Now, I have a strategy: To listen a lot—which calls for asking good questions. At a conference of heart-centered business owners, I’ll open a conversation with: “So, how do you help people?” That opens the door for the other person to enjoy telling me what he or she does.

2) You live more moments free of fear.

I’ve learned that getting through the first two minutes of a speech opens the door for me to feel less fear. How? I’ve learned to turn my attention away from “how am I doing?” (a fearful place) to “How are YOU doing?” – as I focus on the audience.

In focusing on the audience, I am not in the fearful place. I am in the place of serving the audience.

We return to:

When you’re in action, you’re focused, and fear is a quiet voice in the background.

If you do not let fear stop you, you’re actually fearless.

Remember: Rehearse and get coaching—and shift your focus to serving your listeners—and you’ll live more moments free of fear**.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 44 books so far 🙂
CEO

** If you’re interested in the next time I’m running my online course The Introvert’s Formula to Get Clients, send an email to tomsupercoach [at sign] gmail.com. You’ll become eligible for a discount.

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Secrets So You Communicate to Truly Influence People

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“What lesson did you learn that was expensive, that you had to pay for, but it’s made your life better?” my friend, Mark, asked me.

“Do everything you can to be an exceptional listener. I had the greatest teacher who did the opposite—who did not listen and created catastrophes.”

“Who is that?”

“My father. He gave me a backhanded gift. I wanted to be unlike him. To this day, family members do not trust him—because he does not listen, he does not admit his errors, and he does not get better,” I said, from my heart.

To become an Exceptional Listener, we use the N.O.W. process:

N – nurture your listening skills
O – open your mind to your internal obstacles
W – wrestle and rise above your previous limits

  1. Nurture your listening skills

“You cannot heal what you do not acknowledge, and what you do not consciously acknowledge will remain in control of you from within, festering and destroying you and those around you.”  – Richard Rohr

Why do you press on, keep talking, and, at times, fail to listen?

Here are some details that have been voiced by my students and clients:

  • Listening takes time. I’m afraid that we don’t have the time.
  • Some people really don’t get it. I don’t want my team to be swayed by stupid ideas.
  • I don’t want the meeting to descend into a complaint-fest—people just complaining.

I’ve learned that the leader sets the tone.

For example, with my MBA students, I have asked, “What is working for you? And, what do you want more of?” at the end of the initial class.

You’ll notice that I have set the tone as positive.

Because I often work with an international group of students, I have them write down their answers anonymously. Some cultures hold that if you speak up and ask questions, you might be disrespectful to the instructor.

So, I provide the quiet students with a way of “talking to me” through their anonymous responses on slips of paper that they hand in.

Then, in the next class, I read the comments and I respond to the comments in real time with the students.

They also see how I might add something to the session because I am listening to their comments–and I’m incorporating their preferences when appropriate.

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  1. Open your mind to your internal obstacles

Listening is hard work. That’s the truth.

We need to observe our internal obstacles. What about our current fears and internal pain keeps us from devoting our full attention?

Several years ago, I found myself making a big mistake while directing my first feature film. I was so enthusiastic and grateful to be directing the film that I gushed my thank-yous and appreciation.

I watched faces. I was coming across as “too much.” The actors and crew faces communicated: “Is this guy for real?”

Upon reflection, I imagined that some of my frantic energy included “if they don’t like me, they won’t do what I say.”

Here are examples of “internal obstacles”:

  • Trying too hard because you’re afraid of something.
  • Feeling overwhelmed so you have too little energy to devote to each person and each conversation.

You need to take great care of yourself, so you have a big reservoir of personal energy.

What do you need that energy for? To communicate to people in the way that they prefer to receive the messages—and in a way they CAN receive the messages.

As a feature film director, I learned to direct each actor in a unique way, customized to the person in front of me.

  1. Wrestle and rise above your previous limits

I’ve said, “I was so focused on the deadline that I didn’t hear you out last time. Continue. I’m listening carefully.” Thereby, I admitted my error, and I sought to create a remedy.

I’ve learned from my interactions with my father that one cannot trust someone who does not admit errors. Why? Someone who refuses to see his or her own humanness cannot change for the better.

To rise above your past errors, ask a family member or team member: “What works for you when we have a conversation?” and “What gets in the way when we’re talking?”

You might hear something like:

  • I really need you to boil it down to your main point. You give me too much detail, and then I don’t know what’s really important.
  • You talk too quickly. And you assume that I have details that I don’t have. Maybe you could ask me if I’ve heard about something, so we know we’re on the same page.
  • Just tell me what you want. You have this way of asking a question instead of just coming out and telling me what you need.

In summary, to lead other people, listening well is an essential tool. It involves getting internal obstacles out of the way and asking appropriate questions including:

  • What’s most important to you about …?
  • What works for you when we have a conversation?
  • What gets in the way when we’re talking?
  • What is working for you? And what do you want more of?

Rehearse with a friend or trusted colleague so you improve your conversation skills.
This process will open the door for you–for new opportunities and enjoying your life.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 44 books so far 🙂
CEO


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Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

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Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

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Would you like to Amaze yourself? This book helps you Get Stronger so you can Get It Done! You’ll learn how you can Get Credit for It! All three elements are crucial so you rise to a higher level of success and happiness. Think about it. If you get it done, but you’re a physical wreck—you lose. If you get things done, but you don’t Get Credit for It—you cannot get new clients. And, you’ll lose your current clients—if they don’t know, in their gut, how their lives are better because you’ve brought them significant benefits. Here’s a secret: You can unleash the Amazing You! Executive Coach Tom Marcoux helps you develop Extreme Confidence. “Tom Marcoux, once again, has written a book filled with practical insights and veteran business expertise that allows individuals to acquire the tools to balance personal and professional life. Tom’s wisdom possesses depth and the experience of someone who has ‘walked the walk.'” – Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli

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Learn how you can tap into your natural gifts and tendencies to radiate Three Types of Charisma. Discover how to influence people with your words. “Marcoux explodes this myth: Charismatic people always feel comfortable before and during an important event, such as public speaking, networking or some other social event. This book shows how you can feel discomfort but still come across as confident and charismatic.The secrets include ways to radiate all three forms of charisma Marcoux describes as Warm Trust Charisma, Natural Charm Charisma and Magnetic Charisma.” – Danek Kaus

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In a Crisis? You Have a Source of Strength

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Say YES to a Great Year 2018! Get Tom Marcoux’s book “Year of Awesome.”

“No!” I felt it with my whole soul. That’s how I felt when I heard the love of my life faced cancer.

“No!” can be a powerful word. I said it years ago when, in San Carlos, CA., I faced a gang leader who then realized by my body language, my vigorous “NO” (and some other words) that I was going to fight to defend myself. He and the guys with him moved on. No fight. (What a relief! I wasn’t going to win—but I was NOT going to lay down and die.)

How do you defend yourself from cancer in your beloved’s body?

The answer is you cannot defend yourself against that.

Then what?

You find how to Say YES to something else.

Say YES to this moment.

Say YES to listening to what your loved one says. And pay attention. And ask questions and demonstrate that you are listening.

Say YES to hearing the other person out. Even as you disagree.

Now that the doctor has cut away the area (nickel-sized) on my beloved’s arm that had cancerous cells … I call this cancer-scare something else. I call it a “cancer event.”

She does not call it a cancer event.

I discovered that she found her way to peace about the possibility of her early death. I did NOT get to peace about the chance of losing her!

So, I used the phrase “cancer event” to calm down. I say event because it’s over with. [I say, “Until the data is in, it’s all good.” By this I mean, unless I learn otherwise, I will act as if the information is positive. This gives me moments that are worry-free.]

Still, I’m saying yes to what comes up. I’m looking at every walk she and I take as a Gift. Every kiss, every little smile is a Gift.

Last night, we shared onion rings, ice cream and a slice of apple pie. (I don’t recommend it. Those things might need to be separated!)

But we were both still on the planet!

I’m 10 years older than she is. Statistically, she is likely to outlive me by 16 years. (Women tend to live 6 years longer than men.)

Will that happen?

Of course, I don’t know.

“I ask people, ‘What is hope? Define hope for me.’ Typically, they can’t do it… For me, hope is synonymous with another word … and that word is possibility.” – Brett Culp

I sometimes have trouble with that word hope. When looking at people in political roles in the USA now, hope seems far off.

Still, I’m focusing on the Gifts of this Moment. I’m looking at possibility.

As a spiritual person, I also focus there.

In summary:

  • Listen. It’s what your loved one craves. (Other people want this, too.)
  • Find the “yes” when a crisis happens.
  • Find the opportunity to focus on the Gifts in each day.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 44 books so far 🙂
CEO


YourBodySoulandProsperity.com (visitors from 101 countries)


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Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

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What the Rich Don’t Say about Getting Rich: Work Smarter, Live Better

You want wealth, abundance and enjoyment–yes? Wouldn’t it be great to learn the real strategies that the Rich use to create Sustainable Wealth? This book takes you behind-the-scenes to what really works. You’ll see a lot of myth-busting, and you’ll learn the strategies that get real results. “Tom Marcoux gives you an inside look on the psychology of what it takes to be successfully wealthy in life. It’s more than just taking advantage of opportunity, but also about taking care of yourself. This book discusses a number of strategies that we often overlook when it comes to leading a successful life that leads to wealth generation.” – Barry Adamson II

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Would you like to Amaze yourself? This book helps you Get Stronger so you can Get It Done! You’ll learn how you can Get Credit for It! All three elements are crucial so you rise to a higher level of success and happiness. Think about it. If you get it done, but you’re a physical wreck—you lose. If you get things done, but you don’t Get Credit for It—you cannot get new clients. And, you’ll lose your current clients—if they don’t know, in their gut, how their lives are better because you’ve brought them significant benefits. Here’s a secret: You can unleash the Amazing You! Executive Coach Tom Marcoux helps you develop Extreme Confidence. “Tom Marcoux, once again, has written a book filled with practical insights and veteran business expertise that allows individuals to acquire the tools to balance personal and professional life. Tom’s wisdom possesses depth and the experience of someone who has ‘walked the walk.'” – Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli

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How You Can Get Clear and Create Real Success

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Tom Marcoux provides insights for leadership and excellent communication as he records an audio book – in a recording studio.

“I feel stuck. I know I could be a better leader, but I’m a bit foggy. I don’t know what exactly to prioritize,” my audience member, Mark, said, after my speech.

Pause for a moment. What kind of leadership do you need to create in your own life? Perhaps, at work or at home. Even if your title is not manager/vice-president/business owner, you lead somewhere in your life. And, you lead yourself. How is that going?

In my speech about the “RoiLeader,” I talk about focusing on the most important details. ROI refers to “Return on Investment.” Our best investments are in our own skills and into the people we’re talking to. I break down R.O.I as Relate, Optimize and Intuit.

Here, we’ll discuss Optimize.

As leaders, we’re called to guide team members to great purpose and productivity.

In this article, we’ll Lead like a P.R.O.:

P – Protect the Talent
R – Reward Momentum
O – Optimize for Excellence and Expansion

  1. Protect the talent

As a feature film director, I have needed to get the best performances from actors and crew people. I learned that two principles are valuable: Protect the Talent and Guard Momentum. (I’ll talk about momentum in the next section.)

On a feature film set, “the talent” refers to the male and female actors (this distinction is emphasized by The Screen Actors Guild)

Your team members are the Talent. In fact, you are the talent, too.

On the set (for example a sunny beach), I made sure that people got what they needed to do their jobs well. On the set we focus on getting people out of the sun, using umbrellas, providing water and meals.

What can you do to make sure your team members (and you, too!) have what you need to do well? Remember … Protect the Talent.

 

  1. Reward momentum

I directed my first short film when I was nine years old. My first cameraman was my father. I learned quickly that no one moves unless the leader provides direction. To get the material filmed on a particular afternoon, I had to Guard Momentum.

As a student filmmaker, I’d pick up that camera (when necessary) and say, “Okay. Everyone, we’re going here.” My pacing guided the pacing for the group.

How do you “reward momentum”? You praise people for guarding momentum. You tell people that you’re guarding your own momentum. You set up structures so team members guard each other’s momentum.

You invite team members to say something like “Are you on a roll? How about you send me a text message when you’re available?”

You provide actual rewards for people who move forward. Even taking a team member for a celebratory “You moved forward on XY Project” cup of coffee is “rewarding momentum.”

Make momentum a value that the team members uphold right next to Guard Quality.

(By the way “Guard Quality” relates to the next section: Optimize for Excellence and Expansion.)

 

  1. Optimize for Excellence and Expansion

Many of us realize to optimize something, we’ll need to make excellent choices.

About Excellence
Set Criteria for Excellence—that is, identify what is crucial so that your project works well for the customers/end users. Identify the Critical Elements for excellent performance. Additionally, identify what you can drop.

There are times when perfectionists get in trouble. A supervisor may comment about a perfectionist’s efforts: “That’s nice. But that’s not what we really need.”

To avoid such an error, use these questions:

  • What must be in this project?
  • What can we drop? (I refer to “dropables”)
  • What do the stakeholders (customers/others) most want in this project?
  • Who do customers/end users most need from this project?
  • What is most important to our team/company/humankind* about this project?

* Some might ask, “Humankind?” And I reply: “Why not strive to make a contribution to the human enterprise?”

Here is another facet of striving for and achieving excellence. You need to provide evaluation for yourself and others.

I’ve introduced clients to “The Evaluation Box.”

You identify your Top Three Focus Areas (and place them in the “Evaluation Box”).

Andrea, one of my clients, uses these three Focus Areas: Health, Increase Income and Destiny-Work. Each week, she reviews her efforts. She assigns a color:

  • Green – Good
  • Yellow – Concerned
  • Red – in Trouble; Fix This

Meanwhile, Sarah has three people who directly report to her. In a weekly meeting, she has team members identify their current status with their projects. They simply and clearly state the status of the projects with Green, Yellow or Red.

What are your Top Three Focus Areas? How will you evaluate your progress?

 

About Expansion
To lead well, we need to think on an expansive level.

Every week, when working with my own coach, I identify my weekly goals on Three Levels: Good, Excellent and Amazing!

  • Good – I know these tasks are vital and I can complete them
  • Excellent – These tasks require that I stretch
  • Amazing! – These tasks require alliances and expansive thinking.

With Cynthia, a client, I helped her identify her own goals for a particular week:

  • Good – work on revising my business’s website
  • Excellent – make 19 marketing phone calls
  • Amazing! – complete all revisions of my website after having 11 people give me feedback.

In summary, part of being a good leader (at work and in your own life) involves seeing things clearly.

Remember:

P – Protect the Talent
R – Reward Momentum
O – Optimize for Excellence and Expansion

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 44 books so far 🙂
CEO


YourBodySoulandProsperity.com (visitors from 100 countries)


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“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

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How You Can Persevere and Achieve Great Success

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“What is something true that took you by surprise?” my friend, Alana, asked.

“I’ve frequently observed something in clients. They run into the ‘After a Big Leap Crash,’” I said.

“What’s that?”

“The client works hard and accomplishes something significant. First book completed. First speech at a conference. Then the person slows down,” I said.

“What’s that about?” Alana asked.

I went on to mention that each individual is different. Still, some patterns emerge. Different spiritual paths and psychological observations refer to one’s “ego”—that part of us which is made of fear.

When one accomplishes something that is life-changing, the ego acts up and works like a spring to pull one backwards.

One time, I mentioned to a client, “We need to be careful about the After a Big Leap Crash because it can ignite the ‘house’ and burn it down.”

 

The Good News in the Face of the After a Big Leap Crash

The Crash can be shorter in duration and severity. We can take action to avoid the “house burning down.”

How?

I help the client put in the 3 Rs—Reset, Renew, Roll Forward.

Let’s look at each element in turn.

 

Reset

Going full speed with little sleep is NOT sustainable. So, Reset can include changing one’s sleeping and exercise habits. For example, I guided a client to move her meditation period and her “tapping the heart chakra” period to earlier in the evening. These two practices were keeping her awake later into the night.

 

Renew

After you have achieved a big thing, you have a new project that we call “Renew Myself.” You might need to explore a couple of new things like tai chi, a new hobby, or a dance class with one’s spouse. You have given a lot of energy “at the office.” Now, it’s time to bring in new experiences and manifest new energy for your well-being.

 

Roll Forward

Some people notice a form of “life’s irony.” You’ve attained a new level of success. Now is the time to really take advantage of the new opportunities. You have now entered the Season of Harvest.

But then, some of my clients say, “But I do not have the energy to seize all the opportunities.” First, we become selective. I emphasize The Power of Three. What three new opportunities are most important for you?

Second, put in place how you can “roll forward” (like a car rolling down an incline) without a big push on your part. It helps to develop positive relationships, which is sometimes called “The 10 Friends.” The idea is that you can still make progress through the kind support of your inner circle friends.

With support, you do NOT have to keep racing forward.

Third, put in New Systems so you can streamline your life. For example, when I connect with a new person, I tend to send a follow-up email immediately on disconnecting the phone line. I save myself so much stress by getting the email done automatically. Less things remain as tasks “hanging over my head.”

Often, clients engage me to help them put in Systems to improve their productivity and reduce their stress level.

 

The 3 Rs for the Foundation for “Your New Story”

When clients keep saying the same story of woe and pain, I say, “I’m looking forward to when you express a new story—which is about your ‘here and now.’”

Part of the After a Big Leap Crash is something surprising: One experiences a few expectations going unfulfilled. What?

Here are some unfulfilled expectations:

  • I thought with all the new income, my money worries would all vanish.
  • I expected that I wouldn’t have to sell every week—any more.
  • I expected that I would feel that I have finally “arrived.”

Here’s the Secret: Make Your New Story Incorporate Your Big Leap and Your Unexpected Experience with the Feelings

 Your New Story includes three vital elements:

  • Replace your pain-comment with an appreciation/new focus comment.
  • Acknowledge which expectations did not turn out the way you preferred
  • Create the Value and Meaning of Your Big Leap – as the Foundation for Your New Focus and Good Experiences

1) Replace your pain-comment with an appreciation/new focus comment.

I recall this classic phrase:

Before enlightenment, chop wood—carry water.
After enlightenment, chop wood—carry water.

My point in sharing this quote is to acknowledge that a Big Leap often does not take all distress or discomfort out of our working activities.

The solution is to do a form of Reset. Use this pattern “Before ___; Now _____.”

Here’s an example:

Before I couldn’t settle down to rest.
Now, I have new things in place: a) All electronics off 30 minutes before sleep, b) I use a special lightbulb (without blue wavelengths) and read just a couple paragraphs in a paperback book before I sleep, and c) I use an alarm clock—not my smartphone to wake up.

2) Acknowledge which expectations did not turn out the way you preferred

My clients discover that whatever expectations they held for the Big Leap do not match the real-life experience. Things just turn out differently.

Use this pattern: I would have preferred that _____ happened. Okay. It didn’t. Here’s what I learned ____. Here are the benefits I’ve received _____.”

3) Create the Value and Meaning of Your Big Leap – as the Foundation for Your New Focus and Good Experiences

The good news is that we are meaning-creating beings. We can choose to focus on the positive.

Use this pattern:

My Big Leap has meant ______ for me and my life.
Now, from the level my Big Leap has given me, I can do _______.

If you ever find yourself telling a “poor me” story about what your Big Leap did not give you, make a shift by using these words: “The good news is _____.” You can add something like: “Now that I can _____. I’m going to ______.”

In summary, when you create a New, Empowering Story, you can limit the severity and duration of an After a Big Leap Crash.

Remember to focus on Reset, Renew and Roll Forward.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, 44 books so far 🙂
CEO


YourBodySoulandProsperity.com (visitors from 100 countries)


51gjiy0bzvlSoar with Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed

Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

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Would you like to Amaze yourself? This book helps you Get Stronger so you can Get It Done! You’ll learn how you can Get Credit for It! All three elements are crucial so you rise to a higher level of success and happiness. Think about it. If you get it done, but you’re a physical wreck—you lose. If you get things done, but you don’t Get Credit for It—you cannot get new clients. And, you’ll lose your current clients—if they don’t know, in their gut, how their lives are better because you’ve brought them significant benefits. Here’s a secret: You can unleash the Amazing You! Executive Coach Tom Marcoux helps you develop Extreme Confidence. “Tom Marcoux, once again, has written a book filled with practical insights and veteran business expertise that allows individuals to acquire the tools to balance personal and professional life. Tom’s wisdom possesses depth and the experience of someone who has ‘walked the walk.'” – Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli

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Create Warm Connections and Increase Your Success — Oct. 25, 2017 Free Workshop “Power Up Your Brand: Attract Clients”

10-11-17)PowerUpYourBrand_ClientsBUPOct. 25, 2017 – 4:30 PM Free Workshop with Spoken Word Strategist, Tom Marcoux
“Power Up Your Brand: Attract Clients”
Learn Something Better Than an Elevator Speech
You Will Learn to:
* Create Real Confidence to Get People to Know You, Like You and Hire You 
* Use the Method that’s BETTER than an “Elevator Speech”
* Attract Clients through the Power of Your Personal Brand – so You’re Memorable!
Please email Kris Olson at kris@losaltoschamber.org – to register for this valuable, free event Hosted by Los Altos Chamber of Commerce

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Spoken Word Strategist – Executive Coach
Speaker-Author, over 40 books
CEO

 


YourBodySoulandProsperity.com (visitors from 100 countries)


51gjiy0bzvlSoar with Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed

Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

51kgz7eafllDarkest Secrets of Making a PITCH for Film and Television: How You Can Get a Studio Executive, Producer, Name Actor or Private Investor to Say “Yes” to Your Project

Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

coverfromamazonDarkest Secrets of Persuasion and Seduction Masters: How to Protect Yourself and Turn the Power to Good

This invaluable guide, used by people in 15 countries and now in its second edition, will help you become immune to dark persuasion. Learn to use countermeasures to defend yourself against unethical persuasion and seduction tactics. Break any trance in which a salesperson is trying to get you to buy something not to your benefit. “Learn how to defend yourself against manipulation. Best book you’ll ever read to protect yourself, feel strong and move forward in your life. Highly recommended!” – Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter

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Secrets of Awesome Dinner Guests: What Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter Can Teach You About Success … (The Power of Your Personal Brand)

Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

Darkest Secrets of Charisma: Overcome the Lies about Personal Magnetism, Get People to Feel Your Charisma and Influence Others with Your Words

Learn how you can tap into your natural gifts and tendencies to radiate Three Types of Charisma. Discover how to influence people with your words. “Marcoux explodes this myth: Charismatic people always feel comfortable before and during an important event, such as public speaking, networking or some other social event. This book shows how you can feel discomfort but still come across as confident and charismatic.The secrets include ways to radiate all three forms of charisma Marcoux describes as Warm Trust Charisma, Natural Charm Charisma and Magnetic Charisma.” – Danek Kaus

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What the Rich Don’t Say about Getting Rich: Work Smarter, Live Better

You want wealth, abundance and enjoyment–yes? Wouldn’t it be great to learn the real strategies that the Rich use to create Sustainable Wealth? This book takes you behind-the-scenes to what really works. You’ll see a lot of myth-busting, and you’ll learn the strategies that get real results. “Tom Marcoux gives you an inside look on the psychology of what it takes to be successfully wealthy in life. It’s more than just taking advantage of opportunity, but also about taking care of yourself. This book discusses a number of strategies that we often overlook when it comes to leading a successful life that leads to wealth generation.” – Barry Adamson II

5-28-17)FINAL2_amazingyouVers6webAmazing You: Enjoy the Power to Get It Done, Get Stronger, Get Credit for It … featuring Secrets of Extreme Confidence

Would you like to Amaze yourself? This book helps you Get Stronger so you can Get It Done! You’ll learn how you can Get Credit for It! All three elements are crucial so you rise to a higher level of success and happiness. Think about it. If you get it done, but you’re a physical wreck—you lose. If you get things done, but you don’t Get Credit for It—you cannot get new clients. And, you’ll lose your current clients—if they don’t know, in their gut, how their lives are better because you’ve brought them significant benefits. Here’s a secret: You can unleash the Amazing You! Executive Coach Tom Marcoux helps you develop Extreme Confidence. “Tom Marcoux, once again, has written a book filled with practical insights and veteran business expertise that allows individuals to acquire the tools to balance personal and professional life. Tom’s wisdom possesses depth and the experience of someone who has ‘walked the walk.'” – Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli

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