Drop Fear and Procrastination — for Real Success!

tomphoto_tiger_pitch_recover“I just can’t get myself to get to the gym,” Sam says.

“I don’t know what happens. Somehow, I just don’t get around to rehearsing before giving the presentation. And then I have to wing it,” Anita says.

Why do we procrastinate? Researchers note much of it arises from 1) anticipation of pain and 2) not knowing what to do. Even not knowing what to do causes pain. So, we’re back to pain causing procrastination.

Additionally, what does fear do to us? Many of us report that we’re afraid of something going wrong and causing us pain.

I submit to you that procrastination arises from fear.

Conventional Approach: Try to tough out fear and pain.

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Extreme Confidence Approach: Place a system so you automatically do something positive when a Trigger hits you.

A system can be as simple as “send a follow-up email immediately upon hanging up the phone.” A system does not have to be elaborate. The point is to make your next action into something that’s automatic.

Successful people I’ve interviewed have demonstrated that they are skilled at dealing with fear and procrastination. They move forward at an extraordinary pace. Successful people do NOT rely on “I feel like it.”

Additionally, relying on willpower is the path to disaster. Why? Willpower wears out as the day goes along. Researchers note that we experience a form of fatigue arising from the exercise of our will with choice after choice.

Fortunately, I’ve developed a process that helps my clients and audiences. I call it S.P.A. (Many of us would like to relax at a spa. Creating success through S.P.A. leads to more “spa moments.”)

S – start well
P – preset
A – act

  1. Start well

My client, Marina, said, “It’s just getting started that’s hard for me.”
I replied, “What you need is a system. That is, we set a pattern.”

She mentioned that she was having trouble “getting around to renewing her driver’s license.”

“How about use this as your system?” I began. “Put the page from the Dept. of Motor Vehicles right in front of your desktop monitor. Place your passwords-book next to the DMV form. So tomorrow, it’s like you have already started. Remember two ideas: 1) Worst First – do the tough task first and 2) Make it easy for you to get in motion. (I call this the “Easy Part Start.”)

An important element of “start well” is to set a “starting ritual.” Researchers note that many successful people have some daily habit that gets them into action fast.

One of my clients, Amanda tells herself, “Just write. Toss clay on the table.” This is Amanda’s way of assuring herself that she can return and revise her writing (similar to a sculptor shaping the clay into a work of art).

  1. Preset

To overcome procrastination, use this method: “Preset the Trigger Sequence.”

First, I’ll identify a Trigger Sequence. Something in your environment (or even a recurring thought) pushes you into a reaction. The trigger plus your reaction is the Trigger Sequence.

Fortunately, you can take control. Before you get into a “hot situation,” make decisions about what your positive action could be. Such a positive action would replace an automatic negative reaction.

For example, my sweetheart returns home and feels like reaching for cookies. Fortunately, she has “preset” the situation with apples set out on the dining room table. Instead of reaching for a cookie, she grabs an apple. It works for her.

The point is: She knows she will be hit by the Trigger of “I’m home, and I’m hungry.” However, she has already “Preset the Trigger Sequence” to help her take a healthy action.

  1. Act

Sam, one of my clients, said, “I’m afraid of just acting in a haphazard way. Doing something wrong is worse than doing nothing!”

Within an extended conversation, I guided Sam with two principles:

  1. Motion Brings Clarity
  2. If in doubt, leave it out.
  1. Motion Brings Clarity

We’d like to avoid every misstep. However, it’s like we’re standing in a valley. When you start walking up the mountain, soon you’ll be able to see new peaks (new choices), you could not see from the floor of the valley. Taking steps forward and upward, yields new clarity.

  1. If in doubt, leave it out.

Still, you can protect yourself as you take action. For example, recently I received a email confirmation notice of an appointment with the president of an organization. I could respond by simply clicking “yes” (for “Yes, I am attending”).

However, I saw that my name was misspelled. I had the thought, “If I send an email to correct this person’s misspelling, it might bother her. It would be as if I’m criticizing her, and we have not even met yet.”

So, I used my focus-point: “If in doubt, leave it out.” I just clicked “yes” and left the idea of correcting the spelling of my name for during the in-person meeting.

In summary, to overcome procrastination (born of fear), “get strategic with it!” Use the process of S.P.A., so you can get in motion. Such action welcomes new opportunities.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Executive Coach – Pitch Coach – Spoken Word Strategist

P.S. How fun! I’m giving a workshop on April 20, 2017 “Pitch with Extreme Confidence: The Pitch Hacking Method”
— to help people speak powerfully and get the YES they want.
You will learn to:
· Experience Real Confidence
· Seize the Investors’ Attention
· Answer Tough Questions with Poise
· Let Go of Fear and Nervousness
· Use Confident Body Language
· Handle Tough Moments (even if your mind goes blank)
To register – early bird fee of $10.00: https://www.meetup.com/Igniter/events/237843482/

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Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

51kgz7eafllDarkest Secrets of Making a PITCH for Film and Television: How You Can Get a Studio Executive, Producer, Name Actor or Private Investor to Say “Yes” to Your Project

Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

coverfromamazonDarkest Secrets of Persuasion and Seduction Masters: How to Protect Yourself and Turn the Power to Good

This invaluable guide, used by people in 15 countries and now in its second edition, will help you become immune to dark persuasion. Learn to use countermeasures to defend yourself against unethical persuasion and seduction tactics. Break any trance in which a salesperson is trying to get you to buy something not to your benefit. “Learn how to defend yourself against manipulation. Best book you’ll ever read to protect yourself, feel strong and move forward in your life. Highly recommended!” – Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter

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Secrets of Awesome Dinner Guests: What Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter Can Teach You About Success … (The Power of Your Personal Brand)

Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

Darkest Secrets of Charisma: Overcome the Lies about Personal Magnetism, Get People to Feel Your Charisma and Influence Others with Your Words

Learn how you can tap into your natural gifts and tendencies to radiate Three Types of Charisma. Discover how to influence people with your words. “Marcoux explodes this myth: Charismatic people always feel comfortable before and during an important event, such as public speaking, networking or some other social event. This book shows how you can feel discomfort but still come across as confident and charismatic.The secrets include ways to radiate all three forms of charisma Marcoux describes as Warm Trust Charisma, Natural Charm Charisma and Magnetic Charisma.” – Danek Kaus

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What the Rich Don’t Say about Getting Rich: Work Smarter, Live Better

You want wealth, abundance and enjoyment–yes? Wouldn’t it be great to learn the real strategies that the Rich use to create Sustainable Wealth? This book takes you behind-the-scenes to what really works. You’ll see a lot of myth-busting, and you’ll learn the strategies that get real results. “Tom Marcoux gives you an inside look on the psychology of what it takes to be successfully wealthy in life. It’s more than just taking advantage of opportunity, but also about taking care of yourself. This book discusses a number of strategies that we often overlook when it comes to leading a successful life that leads to wealth generation.” – Barry Adamson II

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“Pitch With Extreme Confidence” April 20, 2017 Workshop – See You There :)

pitchconfidenceworkshopadHow fun! I’m giving a workshop on April 20, 2017 to help people speak powerfully and get the YES they want. You will learn to:
· Experience Real Confidence
· Seize the Investors’ Attention
· Answer Tough Questions with Poise
· Let Go of Fear and Nervousness
· Use Confident Body Language
· Handle Tough Moments (even if your mind goes blank)
Click here to register – early bird fee of $10.00 https://www.meetup.com/Igniter/events/237843482/  
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Use the “Power of Three” for Real Success!

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Use the Power of Three: Bring 3 Items to the Marketplace.

“How do I know which product is going to really work in the marketplace?” my new client, Andy, asked.

“You don’t,” I replied. “What really helps is to use ‘The Power of Three.’

The Power of Three is a process that empowers you to try things in the marketplace, to stay strong and to maintain your focus.

We’ll use the T.O.P. process:

T – take 3 to the marketplace
O – optimize three and no more
P – power-up “imperfect action”

  1. Take 3 to the marketplace

When you take three products to the marketplace, you have three times the chance that you’ll find something that truly resonates with your target market.

People like a choice.

As a professional speaker, I provide the event planner/meeting planner with my three top speech topics:

  • Soar with Confidence
  • Get It Done, Get Stronger, Get Credit for It – Power Time Management
  • Pitch with Extreme Confidence: The Pitch Hacking Method

Which one will resonate more with the meeting planner or her group? I don’t know. … not until I send the three choices as visible through my three speaker one sheets (they look like flyers).

Let the marketplace let you know what can turn “red hot.”

  1. Optimize three and no more

Focus is a crucial part of business success. It’s important to avoid getting distracted. Similarly, you’ll do better to avoid diluting your power, resources and attention. Pick three things and avoid trying to push too many things at once. Over the years, I’ve written 42 books. Still, I focus on marketing only three top speeches at this time.

Now it’s your turn. What are the three best candidates (products/services) that you can promote now?

  1. Power-up “imperfect action”

Waiting for the perfect time or the perfect form of your product can cause you to falter. Sometimes, perfectionists fail because they’re not shipping out their product.

Years ago, one of my friends said, “Creating a cure for no known disease.” He was referring to those engineers who fall in love with an idea, create a company, but later find out that no market wants what they’re offering.

The solution is to take something to the marketplace and get feedback.

“Real artists ship.” – Steve Jobs

Jobs was referring to the idea that real artist deliver value. They send products into the marketplace. They learn from real users of the product. They improve the product for the next iteration.

To know if you have something people want, see if you can get real customers to let you know what they prefer.

For example, I wanted to give a speech on “pitch hacks.” A meeting planner was concerned that the title that I had was not clear enough. I worked with my team and the title became “Pitch with Extreme Confidence: The Pitch Hacking Method.” (On April 20, 2017, I’m giving this workshop via Stanford Entrepreneurs and Silicon Valley Founders. Get an early discount https://www.meetup.com/Igniter/events/237843482/ )

One of my mentors mentioned taking “imperfect action.” We do not wait for the perfect form of some item. For example, I have worked with clients who did not think their biography was “perfect enough yet.”

I asked, “Does your biography communicate what you bring to the table? Is it clear about your credentials and what you can do for the client?”

When the client says “yes,” then the biography is “good enough,” and the client can use his or her speaker one sheet as a tool for getting speaking engagements. Sure, the client can later revise her biography. Still, she has not let the biography become a roadblock, stopping her from moving forward.

In summary, use the Power of Three so you enter the marketplace, create momentum and refine as you go along.

Take action and move forward.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux, CEO, Executive Coach – Spoken Word Strategist – Pitch Coach

This material is on my mind because I have now opened a special opportunity. When you CLICK HERE, you can go to my questionnaire-webpage and apply for a free consultation with me (limited number available) entitled: “Your Hidden Success Breakthrough – Strategy Session.”

Here are Your BENEFITS of such a free consultation.

  • Create a sense of clarity about the Success you really want to have
  • Discover the essential building blocks for having the Success and Fulfilling Life of your dreams
  • Determine the #1 thing stopping you from having the Success Breakthrough you want
  • Identify the most powerful actions that will move you toward the level of income and abundance you desire
  • Complete the consultation with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to create the Breakthrough you truly want

I invite you to apply.

Let’s see if we might get the chance to work together … as a free opportunity to you.

Tom Marcoux
Executive Coach * Spoken Word Strategist * Pitch Coach

CEO (leading teams in United Kingdom, India and USA)

Speaker-author of 41 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
 
Author of Soar With Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed (See more when you CLICK HERE )
 
1.8 min. video (on YouTube): Tom Marcoux pulls back the curtain about how his directing a feature film that went to Cannes Film market helps with “Building Your Brand”:

51gjiy0bzvlSoar with Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed

Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

51kgz7eafllDarkest Secrets of Making a PITCH for Film and Television: How You Can Get a Studio Executive, Producer, Name Actor or Private Investor to Say “Yes” to Your Project

Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

coverfromamazonDarkest Secrets of Persuasion and Seduction Masters: How to Protect Yourself and Turn the Power to Good

This invaluable guide, used by people in 15 countries and now in its second edition, will help you become immune to dark persuasion. Learn to use countermeasures to defend yourself against unethical persuasion and seduction tactics. Break any trance in which a salesperson is trying to get you to buy something not to your benefit. “Learn how to defend yourself against manipulation. Best book you’ll ever read to protect yourself, feel strong and move forward in your life. Highly recommended!” – Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter

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Secrets of Awesome Dinner Guests: What Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter Can Teach You About Success … (The Power of Your Personal Brand)

Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

"Darkest Secrets of Charisma" - improve your confidence - book written by Tom MarcouxDarkest Secrets of Charisma: Overcome the Lies about Personal Magnetism, Get People to Feel Your Charisma and Influence Others with Your Words

Learn how you can tap into your natural gifts and tendencies to radiate Three Types of Charisma. Discover how to influence people with your words. “Marcoux explodes this myth: Charismatic people always feel comfortable before and during an important event, such as public speaking, networking or some other social event. This book shows how you can feel discomfort but still come across as confident and charismatic.The secrets include ways to radiate all three forms of charisma Marcoux describes as Warm Trust Charisma, Natural Charm Charisma and Magnetic Charisma.” – Danek Kaus

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What the Rich Don’t Say about Getting Rich: Work Smarter, Live Better

You want wealth, abundance and enjoyment–yes? Wouldn’t it be great to learn the real strategies that the Rich use to create Sustainable Wealth? This book takes you behind-the-scenes to what really works. You’ll see a lot of myth-busting, and you’ll learn the strategies that get real results. “Tom Marcoux gives you an inside look on the psychology of what it takes to be successfully wealthy in life. It’s more than just taking advantage of opportunity, but also about taking care of yourself. This book discusses a number of strategies that we often overlook when it comes to leading a successful life that leads to wealth generation.” – Barry Adamson II

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“Pitch with Extreme Confidence: The Pitch Hacking Method” with Tom Marcoux — workshop via Igniters: Stanford Entrepreneurs

tomphoto_tiger_pitch_recoverGet your ticket (early discount) “Pitch with Extreme Confidence: The Pitch Hacking Method” with Tom Marcoux — via Igniters: Stanford Entrepreneurs & Silicon Valley Founders … This workshop gives you both the new skills and opportunities to practice them. Extreme Confidence does NOT merely come from knowledge of your text or focus area. People who pitch are often afraid because they do not know how to handle their mind going blank or an investor’s toughest question. They’re afraid of being embarrassed. Have you ever given a pitch and merely hoped that you would get through it without messing up? Just imagine having the Extreme Confidence to know that you can handle something—anything—going wrong.

It’s about learning what seizes attention and how to handle tough questions that build a real connection with the investors. It may seem that you’re talking to a group. But you’re talking to individual investors. They watch for how your body language and vocal tonality show that you’re on edge. Confidence is contagious. You express confidence, and the investors are confident in you—and you gain your funding. It’s all about creating trust. https://www.meetup.com/Igniter/events/237843482/

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Avoid the BIG Mistake that Destroys Success

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Rehearsal and Focusing on “Better” create Success!

What if I fail and do not make my own deadline?” my client, Amanda, asked.
This began an extended conversation.
A number of topics arose. Two topics in particular were important.

  • Beware of “we tried.”
  • Focus on “better doing.”

1. Beware of “we tried.”
During the course of the coaching session with Amanda, my intuition guided me to talk with her about the insidious nature of “we tried.” Using “we tried” in our conversation is a bad setup.

It’s like giving yourself an excuse before you’ve even begun.

It’s true that you can give a project your best effort, and it can still fail. Projects often have a lot of variables that you cannot control.

When you bring something to the marketplace, you have no idea if you’ll find a receptive audience. In this case, you can do everything right, but the marketplace does not respond in the way you prefer.

Years ago, a friend said, “Watch out for inventing a cure for no known disease.” He said this with a smile. But there is a serious implication here. When I work with people who are working to improve their pitch to gain funding, I find that it helps to make sure that the person has truly tested their idea in some way.

Without testing, we do not know if people even want a solution we’re offering. A solution to a problem that means nothing to your target market can be a real waste of effort.

For example, it is better to have a prospective client use your new application and to sit behind the person and watch how they use your screens. We need to be able to observe actual behavior if one is developing an app.

This all has implications related to “we tried.”
Really? You tried? I suggest the improved idea of “We’re doing.”

Look at these pairs of options:

  • “We tried to sell the product” – VERSUS — Every day (5 days a week), we did 15 marketing calls.
  • “We tried to create a product that the marketplace will love” – VERSUS – We tested the product with groups of real clients on 19 different occasions!

Now, it’s your turn. How can you convert “we tried” to “we full-out did these 27 things”?

2. Focus on “better doing.”
At this point, I’m inviting you to drop the idea of “we tried.” You’re strong. Whatever life has hit you with in the past, you’ve survived. You’re still here on this planet. That means you can say, “We did 372 marketing calls. We conducted 133 free consultations. We gained 18 new clients.”

And still, you can find a situation in which you might have to say, “18 clients was not enough for a sustainable business. It failed.”

I do acknowledge that this much “doing” (or activity) was not a full failure. You certainly learned new things.

What is the real solution to this situation? It is what I call “better doing.”
It focuses on one question: “How can we do this better?” (What is the ‘better doing’ in this situation?)

So if 18 clients is not enough? How many clients is enough?
36 clients? Okay. How can you double 372 marketing calls? How can you make the conversion rate from free consultations yield more than 18 clients per 133 consultations?

Do you need to hire an expert coach to help you improve the conversation rate?
Hey!—That’s a good question.

In summary, I invite you to free yourself from the debilitating pattern of “we tried.”
Empower yourself with “We did these things (all logged) BETTER.”
Then – no matter what – you can be proud of yourself.

What is a fast way to get to “BETTER”?
That’s working with a coach.  I have now opened a special opportunity. When you CLICK HERE, you can go to my questionnaire-webpage and apply for a free consultation with me (limited number available) entitled: “Your Hidden Success Breakthrough – Strategy Session.”

Here are Your BENEFITS of such a free consultation.

  • Create a sense of clarity about the Success you really want to have
  • Discover the essential building blocks for having the Success and Fulfilling Life of your dreams
  • Determine the #1 thing stopping you from having the Success Breakthrough you want
  • Identify the most powerful actions that will move you toward the level of income and abundance you desire
  • Complete the consultation with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to create the Breakthrough you truly want

I invite you to apply.

Let’s see if we might get the chance to work together … as a free opportunity to you.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux
Executive Coach * Pitch Coach
Spoken Word Strategist


CEO (leading teams in United Kingdom, India and USA)

Speaker-author of 41 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
 
Author of Soar With Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed (See more when you CLICK HERE )
 
1.8 min. video (on YouTube): Tom Marcoux pulls back the curtain about how his directing a feature film that went to Cannes Film market helps with “Building Your Brand”:

51gjiy0bzvlSoar with Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed

Get the Advantages to take your business to a higher level. Learn Leadership Advantages, Pitch Advantages, and Success Advantages. To Soar with Confidence, you learn and use principles for top level communication to board members, team members and the media.
“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

51kgz7eafllDarkest Secrets of Making a PITCH for Film and Television: How You Can Get a Studio Executive, Producer, Name Actor or Private Investor to Say “Yes” to Your Project

Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

coverfromamazonDarkest Secrets of Persuasion and Seduction Masters: How to Protect Yourself and Turn the Power to Good

This invaluable guide, used by people in 15 countries and now in its second edition, will help you become immune to dark persuasion. Learn to use countermeasures to defend yourself against unethical persuasion and seduction tactics. Break any trance in which a salesperson is trying to get you to buy something not to your benefit. “Learn how to defend yourself against manipulation. Best book you’ll ever read to protect yourself, feel strong and move forward in your life. Highly recommended!” – Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter

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Secrets of Awesome Dinner Guests: What Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter Can Teach You About Success … (The Power of Your Personal Brand)

Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

"Darkest Secrets of Charisma" - improve your confidence - book written by Tom MarcouxDarkest Secrets of Charisma: Overcome the Lies about Personal Magnetism, Get People to Feel Your Charisma and Influence Others with Your Words

Learn how you can tap into your natural gifts and tendencies to radiate Three Types of Charisma. Discover how to influence people with your words. “Marcoux explodes this myth: Charismatic people always feel comfortable before and during an important event, such as public speaking, networking or some other social event. This book shows how you can feel discomfort but still come across as confident and charismatic.The secrets include ways to radiate all three forms of charisma Marcoux describes as Warm Trust Charisma, Natural Charm Charisma and Magnetic Charisma.” – Danek Kaus

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What the Rich Don’t Say about Getting Rich: Work Smarter, Live Better

You want wealth, abundance and enjoyment–yes? Wouldn’t it be great to learn the real strategies that the Rich use to create Sustainable Wealth? This book takes you behind-the-scenes to what really works. You’ll see a lot of myth-busting, and you’ll learn the strategies that get real results. “Tom Marcoux gives you an inside look on the psychology of what it takes to be successfully wealthy in life. It’s more than just taking advantage of opportunity, but also about taking care of yourself. This book discusses a number of strategies that we often overlook when it comes to leading a successful life that leads to wealth generation.” – Barry Adamson II

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Want Real Success? Use the “Stickability” Approach

Tom Marcoux holds Greg S. Reid 's book "Stickability"

Tom Marcoux holds Greg S. Reid ‘s book “Stickability”

How would your success expand if you learned what really works from top achievers? You’ll find real support in the book by Greg S. Reid that is titled Stickability: The Power of Perseverance (Think and Grow Rich Series).

This powerful book gives you both the compelling stories and real-life strategies to create the success and fulfillment you desire. On page 23, we learn powerful points from the inventor of the modern cell phone, Martin Cooper. As author Greg S. Reid notes: “[Martin said] it’s important to know the difference between perseverance and stubbornness. You have to be able to adjust if necessary. . . . Sometimes this includes listening to others’ feedback, even when you don’t wish to hear it.”

On page 88, Reid notes the important observation that there are “Six Ghosts of Fear” itemized by Napoleon Hill, including fears of Poverty, Criticism, Ill Health, Loss of Love, Old Age and Death. Reid’s book includes methods of dealing with these fears. That’s important!

On pages 173 through 179, Reid shares the insights of Mike Muhney, the co-inventor of ACT! (the contact-management program). Mike said, “I have learned that I have to believe in myself. I can’t tell you how many times, I’ve had to call on a reservoir in my own heart, in the motion of my mind and my soul, just to keep going. I’ve always forced myself to believe in myself.”

A prime value in Reid’s book Stickability is that you have the inspiration of real life stories to augment the strategies — so you accomplish what you dream of. You’ll find real value in this book.

Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux
Executive Coach * Spoken Word Strategist * Pitch Coach

CEO (leading teams in United Kingdom, India and USA)

Speaker-author of 41 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
 
Author of Soar With Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed (See more when you CLICK HERE )
 
1.8 min. video (on YouTube): Tom Marcoux pulls back the curtain about how his directing a feature film that went to Cannes Film market helps with “Building Your Brand”:

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“Marcoux demonstrates how to “Prepare a Compelling Story that Moves Emotions.” He mentions techniques that he teaches clients for developing compelling Ted Talks.” – Dantalion Jones

 

 

 

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Learn the vital skills of pitching your ideas and enrolling others into your vision. Get that “Big Yes” to funding your project. “This insightful book shows you how to zing a curveball right past the parts of the Hollywood exec’s brain that want to say no before you even make your pitch. You will learn what works when pitching, and more importantly, why, so you can get to YES much more often. Buy this book now. Consider it Spring Training before the big game.” – Danek Kaus

 

 

 

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Imagine dining with Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Jr., Helen Keller, and John Lasseter. These seven people share one thing: They’re great communicators. So this book will help you become a great communicator. “Marcoux especially stresses the importance of personal branding, of coming across as trustworthy and dependable.” – Einar Masson

 

 

 

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Get What You Want in This New Year! (Better than New Years Resolutions!)

Make 2017 Great! Use Tom Marcoux 's book "Soar! Nothing Can Stop You This Year"

Make 2017 Great! Use Tom Marcoux ‘s book “Soar! Nothing Can Stop You This Year

“You CAN make this year better than all years before,” I shared with my client, Andrea.

“How?” she asked.

“It takes a different approach. You’ll create a transformation for yourself. And, you’ll avoid the pitfalls of standard New Year’s resolutions,” I assured her.

So what do you want? To lose weight (or get lighter and feel energized!)? To write a book? To create a portfolio of your work and submit it so you get your dream job? Something else?

We’ll use the P.L.A.N.S. process:

P – plan for backsliding (get back on the horse fast)
L – log it on a Progress Log
A – arrange “joy out and Joy IN”
N – nurture your tough action early in the day
S – start so easy it fits your life

  1. Plan for backsliding (get back on the horse fast)

I’ve watched a friend simply give up when he broke his diet one afternoon. However, here’s a way to help yourself keep on going. 

The better idea is to have a plan for backsliding.

One of my clients wanted to get up earlier so she could accomplish something for her dream—before going to work. She kept a log and did well for five days.

Then she stayed up late and failed to set her alarm clock. Her sixth day was a failure—her words.

With my guidance, she simply started again and called it “Round 2.” At the moment, she has 15 days (of Round 2) of successfully getting up at her preferred, early time.

The truth is we live in an imperfect world. We’ll sometimes falter. I prefer to call it “hesitating.” The plan is to get back on the horse fast. Call it Round 2 (or 3 or 21) and carry on from there.

 

  1. Log it on a Progress Log

Several years ago, a young comedian, Brad Isaac, met Jerry Seinfeld backstage at an Oakland, CA. venue. Brad asked, “How can I be a better comic?”

“The way to be a better comic is to create better jokes, and the way to create better jokes is to write every day,” Jerry replied. Jerry then revealed his own technique that he used to improve his craft as a comedian.

Here’s how Brad later described Jerry Seinfeld’s advice: “Jerry had a gem of a leverage technique he used on himself and you can use it to motivate yourself—even when you don’t feel like it. He revealed a unique calendar system he uses to pressure himself to write. Here’s how it works. [Jerry] told me to get a big wall calendar that has a whole year on one page and hang it on a prominent wall. The next step was to get a big red magic marker. He said for each day that I do my task of writing, I get to put a big red X over that day.”

In summary, Jerry Seinfeld told Brad: “After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain…. Don’t break the chain.”

I call such a calendar a “Progress Log.”

At this moment, I’m looking at my board (next to my computer monitor), and I see three Progress Logs (daily exercise, daily word count for writing my 42nd book, and more…).

To really achieve the transformation that you want, use a Progress Log.

 

  1. Arrange “joy out and Joy IN”

One of my dear friends, Julian, told me that he’s “dropping carbs” from his diet. His doctor recommended a significant change in diet to help my friend avoid diabetes.

My friend asked for my thoughts on this.

“I hear you. You say you’re dropping cake, potato chips, bread, sushi, Asian noodles and more from your diet.”

“Y-yeah,” Julian said, his face dropping into a sad frown.

“Those types of foods bring you joy, right?”

“They did,” Julian said, his voice quiet.

“Then for you to keep to your plan. Let’s focus on “joy out and Joy IN,” I replied.

My point here is that replacement of what brings you joy is the process to keep with a new diet or schedule. One needs to replace the joy that one has taken out.

Fortunately, Julian likes to draw. So he’s now putting joy into his day by drawing using a Wacom tablet and his computer. In this way, he’s replaced talking about food with talking about his joy in drawing illustrations.

Now it’s your turn. Are you doing something difficult as part of your new goal? How can you put new Joy IN?

 

  1. Nurture your tough action early in the day

“Some research at Stanford University demonstrated that willpower is like a muscle. It wears out as the day goes on. That’s why I eat salad for breakfast,” I said, to an audience at LinkedIn Corporation.

I don’t like eating salad so I make sure to do it daily when I’m at my strongest point of willpower. When I say “nurture your tough action early in the day,” I mean take care of it and make space for your tough action to occur early and daily.

Now it’s your turn. What will most help you keep to your new schedule? What do you find tough to do? Can you place it early in your day?

 

  1. Start so easy, it fits your life

For years I wrote about the benefits of meditation (among other methods) in books to help people. Still, I had to admit that I did not consistently meditate myself.

Then I came across two pieces of research that helped me. First, top meditation author Ram Dass was asked, “How long is your daily meditation session?”

“3 minutes a day,” Ram Dass replied.

I told myself that I could do three minutes!

Second, I found out that research reveals that concentrating on one image and focusing on one sound simultaneously places one’s brain in a calm state.

So now I had my breakthrough. And, for months, I have consistently meditated for 3 minutes before turning on any electronic device in the morning.

I call this “start so easy that your new action fits your life.”

Now it’s your turn. What is an easy step you could take toward improving your life?

I focus on this idea “better than zero.” Simply walking two blocks (one out and one back to your home) is better than zero. What can you do that is better than zero?

 

In summary, become one of the 8% of people who accomplish their New Years related goal. How? Make sure to have a fully-developed Plan. You have the P.L.A.N.S. process:

P – plan for backsliding (get back on horse fast)
L – log it on a Progress Log
A – arrange “joy out and Joy IN”
N – nurture your tough action early in the day
S – start so easy it fits your life

The best to you in this New Year.

Warmly,
Tom

Tom Marcoux
Executive Coach
Spoken Word Strategist

Pitch Coach

CEO (leading teams in United Kingdom, India and USA)

Speaker-author of 41 books (with free chapters on Amazon.com )
Author of Soar With Confidence: An Executive Coach Reveals Secrets, Lies and Countermeasures So You Excel Like Top CEOs and Leaders – Pitch, Lead, Succeed (See more when you CLICK HERE )
1.8 min. video (on YouTube): Tom Marcoux pulls back the curtain about how his directing a feature film that went to Cannes Film market helps with “Building Your Brand”:
Author of Reduce Clutter, Enlarge Your Life (See more when you CLICK HERE )
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