How You Can Get Strong, Overcome Pain and Make Your Life Better!

Do you know there is an inner peace way to win?

Ever hit a wall of grief and pain? The road of healing includes guiding your thoughts to positive possibilities — even while giving yourself space to do some grieving. I’ll share three questions that help you step forward in life.

When we really face it, we have two things: this present moment and the next moment. But many of us get stuck in either guilt/regrets of the past or worries of the future.

What brings us to this present moment? A question.

Some questions empower us. And others tear us down like: “Why does this always happen to me?” or “When will I stop being [clumsy, stupid . . . any other self-degrading remark]?”

Instead, an empowering question will turn the direction of your thoughts to what you can use to improve this moment and the next moment.

Here are 3 Power Questions my clients use:

* What did I learn?
* What did Higher Power want me to get from this?
* How can I move forward and carry the lesson for the better?

For those people who have a spiritual path, the second question gets them out of their own ego.

I have learned, as I was grieving the death of a close friend, that I could learn a number of lessons.

For example, after a close friend committed suicide, I supported another friend “Sam” by asking, “Do you need a suicide watch?” [A suicide watch is when friends take shifts so someone will be with a depressed person 24/7.] That took courage because I risked Sam’s anger.

However, Sam said, “Thank you for being concerned. I am okay.”

I invite you to use these three questions. Discover what next positive thing can be part of your life journey.

Here’s another important detail. I have learned to be grateful for what I have–and what I enjoyed in the past.

As I step into a new day and I find that some things change, I’ll say, “I’m in a new chapter of my life. I’m grateful for what happened in the previous chapter. And I’m fully present for this new chapter.”

As an Executive Coach, I help my client develop skills, strength and stamina. During the process, the client will take new action and take new appropriate risks. And there are times when life throws in some hardship.

So if you’re experiencing some hardship (perhaps, losing a friend or a job or a possession like a totaled car), see if you can grieve AND employ the 3 Power Questions:

* What did I learn?
* What did Higher Power want me to get from this?
* How can I move forward and carry the lesson for the better?

Warmly,

Tom