Free Yourself of the Scam of Happiness and Get Unstuck

Are you looking forward and taking new action?

“What is a scam of happiness?” my friend Stephen asked.

“The definition of scam includes ‘a dishonest scheme; a fraud,’” I replied.

There’s an old phrase: “If someone says life is easy, they’re delusional or trying to sell you something.”

Along this line, a number of people are selling “quick fixes” related to people feeling happy.

Much of the messages we get through media is that we’re unhappy because we’re missing something—and we can buy something to fill the emptiness. In a way, I’m calling this a scam because just going for more stuff/experiences can lead to true disappointment. Some people get stuck in the “hamster treadmill” of more toys, more food, and more leisure activities. If you go after happiness directly by trying to get more toys, more food and more leisure activities, you may be really disappointed.

The Way to Get Unstuck

I’ve seen people work at jobs they hate, and then spend a lot of money on more toys “because they deserve it.”

The question “do you deserve it” is not helpful. Let’s say you do deserve good things/good people/experiences in life. Now, what are good decisions that support you to be healthy and fulfilled? That’s a useful focus point.

To get unstuck, take a deeper look at your life. Are you doing things that help you feel that you are growing and stretching—and expressing yourself authentically?

Answer these questions for yourself:

Questions to Move Forward Out of a Stuck Place:

• Are you doing anything new?
• Are you facing some fear?
• Can you be rejected?
• Can you get better at something?
• Is there some appropriate risk involved?
• Are you growing in some way?

Successful people I’ve interviewed face fear and rejection on a weekly basis. If you’re doing something new and important, you’ll face resistance. Do not run from resistance. Instead, become skillful in working with resistance.

“You have to find something that you love enough to be able to take risks, jump over the hurdles and break through the brick walls that are always going to be placed in front of you. If you don’t have that kind of feeling for what it is you’re doing, you’ll stop at the first giant hurdle.” – George Lucas

I mentioned the question: “Are you doing anything new?”

Getting stuck and feeling stuck often revolve around doing nothing new, or at least, nothing that truly engages your heart.

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu

We are meant to grow and to step into one new chapter of life after another.

Many of us find that life pushes us to new places. When a close friend committed suicide, I found myself entering a new chapter of my life without my friend in it. I became deeper in my new chapter of life.

You can make a conscious choice to move forward and experience more happy moments. Again, it’s about answering (and taking action related to) the Questions to Move Forward Out of a Stuck Place.

So let’s move away from the “hamster treadmill of more toys, more food, and more leisure activities.”

Find some part of your life in which you can grow and stretch.

You can explore a new hobby.

A hobby may become the source of a new stream of income—or not.

Are you doing something new?–and–Are you growing?

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Tom Marcoux speaks and provides in-person processes
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Warmly,

Tom

Tom Marcoux